What I Learned - Inner Harmony

I’m back. I’ve come down from the mountain top. I’m feeling good. About to feast and come Thursday, I will cease to exist as you know me.

It’s Good Friday and I’ve been delinquent lately so here is what I’ve leaned so far:
"My goal is not integration but inner-harmony"

I was watching Nip Tuck and I heard this phrase. A psychologist was talking about a multiple-personality patient. It hit me immediately! What a perfect analogy! How can we deal with the many, many personalities we come into contact with on a daily basis in the outside world, if we can deal with the few that exist within us?

We don’t have to be crazy or hear the voice of Morgan Freeman coming from our pet hamster. I’m talking about the voice that tells us what we should be doing vs. the voice that tells us what we want to be doing. I’m talking about the part of us that wants to be individual vs the part of us that longs for acceptance. (We see those battles on Facebook every day.) And what about the part of us (MEN) that want to bang everything moving vs the part that wants a nice wife and some kids (boys we can raise to bang everything else we never got to bang [and some we did]). Wouldn’t or doesn’t the world seem a better place when all those conflicting urges can live in harmony.

I wrote something about settling some time ago. Settling is what most of us do. Instead of learning to work somewhere (and it’s different for us all) in between the opposites that make us who we are. It’s natural to want to avoid confrontation so what do you think we do when the confrontation is within. Do we run? Of course, we settle.

Forget that, remember, this past 40 days was about learning to resist temptation and becoming stronger inside. Every book on self help will tell you a million and one ways to be a better person. They all work at least temporarily. The better books begin or end with self awareness. They all lead back to the one thing that, if worked properly, will bring lasting happiness. That is inner-harmony.

When we are at peace and accepting of who we are, where we are and where we are going, nothing can deter our happiness. I have to quote House Party 2 – "…be yourself. If people don’t like you for who you are, FUCK EM! Fuck ’em up against the wall!" And THAT is being Christian! After all, who kept it more real than Jesus. Like him or not, believe in him or not, he did it like Sinatra, his way. Find yours.

This should be a goal for all of us. As a group, Black people would be much better off if they strove for inner-harmony instead of integration, assimilation or acceptance. As individuals, we can interact more easily with one another if we don’t have our defenses up because we are living in harmony within ourselves. So lets start the journey by learning ourselves. Let’s win by being true to ourselves.


I love it!!!!!!! It still amazes me that those thoughts come out of your head.

Black And Brown: Election 2008

This democratic primary is making me upset. First, Black women come under fire because some choose to vote for Hillary Clinton and not Barrack Obama. Today, minority voters are showing splits between hispanic and black voters because hispanic voters don't trust Obama to represent them once in office. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. The representation of this primary in the news has not benefited the Democratic Party. There is simply too much division! And the worst part is, the division is among under-represented groups. The saddest thing I ever see is broke people fighting over a nickel to give to the wealthy, so the wealthy can throw the poor more crumbs to fight over at their amusement. We are Bum Fights 2008. A few republicans are having a grand old time watching Black people, Brown people, and women weaken the major focus of this campaign. CHANGE (That is change for the better!)

Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one upset by this division. This is not what our leaders died for. You know I'm so upset I can't wtite any more...

Am I missing something?


Have we ever been able to come together on anything? The Browns and the Blacks has/have always been divided and will probably always will. Many of us don't know who we are, many of us don't know the promises that were made, many of us don't care that we are a chose people, people chosen by God. But will we ever see those promises come to fruition? I wonder, because we've chosen to put our selves in the dunce seat. Step N Fetchit is alive and well once again. The Black and the Browns are still a source of amusements for the Others.

Not at all. It's sad to say, but this is the reality that we live in. We are a divided people. Everyone will (hopefully) think and analyze and decide for him/herself which candidate they believe will do a better job. I think a lot of what's going on has to do with Barrack's perceived inexperience and Hillary's perceived advantagous experience. But, then again, I guess this is what democracy is about. Our leaders fought for our right to vote. As great of a tragedy as it is to see disadvantaged people fight amongst themselves and to see the advantaged in our country benefit from it, I think it is a greater tragedy if the disadvantaged didn't disagree with each other at all. For if that were the case, they wouldn't be involved in the democratic process at all. So while it saddens me to see what is going on, I have to say that part of me is content with it because at least there are most people from this demographic involved in the political process now than I can remember at any recent time. Let's just hope that whomever the nominee is, that we can rally behind them and support them through the rest of their campaign.

WORD!
No I don't think you're missing anything and the analogy of the crumbs is a good one. I was just discussing the paradigms ,that are perpetuating this divide, with my coworker yesterday.

He was talking about how the socio-econimic paradigm we live within has created divides or categories even within poverty. He pointed out white poverty versus black poverty, male poverty versus female poverty, and rural poverty versus urban poverty. I couldn't disagree with his assertions.

But I did point out to him that the paradigm is not new. It has existed since before the advent of the U.S. as a country. It is not new it is long seated and deeply ingrained.

Yet, the fact that people like ourselves are having these conversations point to the hope of change....and I don't mean in the sense of some political movement.

I think there are more of us that will rally behind either democratic candidate despite the divisive speech and childish antics some of our peers are exhibiting.

I'd have to agree with Theo on this one. The participation within the democratic party has superceded that of previous years. People do want change and they are voicing their opinions by voting. I think if Barack Obama was not running, I 'may' rally behind Clinton, but personally, I feel he is the best candidate, despite his perceived inexperience (in comparison to Hillary's years of experience - including the 4 years she played the role as the wife of the President...). One of these democratic candidates will be the primary democratic candidate. When that happens, hopefully all - inclusive of men, women, blacks, hispanics, etc.. will rally together and elect a democratic candidate. This primary campaign has proved that people DO have the know how and capability of coming out to the polls and voting. So if we combine the support gathered by Obama and Clinton, a DEMOCRATIC candidate shall be elected! This country needs a democratic president, more than it has ever before (in our lifetime). Both Clinton and Obama's plan takes into account universal health care, ending the war on Iraq, and other pertinent issues, so this will benefit the masses. Last but not least, for your Texas, Ohio, Vermont, and Rhode Island friends - cast your vote if you haven't already. This is a vital time in history. I suggest you vote for Obama because he is NOT indebted to ANY lobbyist and he is in a position to evoke change that will be holistically benefit the American people. His grassroots movement has surpassed all prediction. If you are a Texan, voting isn't enough. We need you to be at your precints by 7pm tonight. Do the Texas 2 step by voting AND caucusing.

Barack the Vote!!