Current mood: blessed
Category: Life
Anyone who's been with me since the beginning of the year, I apologize. I have been on vacation it feels like since my birthday. True, I have put out some popular blogs. But my purpose is more than that. I need to share what I learn with as many people as I can.
So before we have church, let me share a few things I have learned or am still learning since March:
Black vodka makes an excellent dirty martini, I have no idea how I used to mix it in 2002 but since I was in New Orleans it is safe to assume I drank it straight.
I can get fat. My horoscope says people born on my date will never have weight problems…bullshit! I cry "Shenanigans!" on horoscopes. They also tell me I'm going to get a ton of loving and I end up at home reading Indian erotica. So let me make my own fortune for the time being. And let me get my big ass back in the gym!
Mike was right. I am an asshole. Sometimes being nice is not what will help people. I want to be helpful more than I want to be nice, at times, more than I want to be liked. Like it would be nice if I could take all you to all the different churches and learning experiences I've been to and let you see what I have seen. But it doesn't work like that so I write and hopefully, my stream of thought comes across for the rest of you all to understand. Plus, I'm tired of yall embarrassing me at church. WAKE UP NIGGAH! DANG! Cain't take yall nowhere!
To emphasize this, the gospel [Matthew Chapter 15] we read was about Jesus not only ignoring and dismissing a woman he also called her a dog. Jesus called a female a dog. A female dog…
That wasn't the message on Sunday though. Father John wanted us all to be more welcoming of each other as church members. Be together! Church is a house of fellowship. Our missions may be individual but we are connected by a few common principles. Church is supposed to be where we celebrate that connection. And in the world, we can find a way to connect and communicate with our fellow human beings.
Even churches and churchgoers get caught up in the times. With so much reality TV going on, how many of us catch ourselves becoming fascinated with the lives of demons. We have to pay attention to ourselves when we fail to see the common themes in other human beings. People may be a different religion, race, income, intelligence, nationality, sex, age, political party, sexual orientation; drive a different car, live on the other side of town, go to different clubs, join different gangs. It's even so bad; drug users discriminate against other drug users!
It was predicted that Jesus would come and be refused. In Isaiah chapter 56 it was even foretold that strangers would be able to share the blessing of the chosen people. Since the Israelites rejected Jesus, salvation was offered to the rest of the world to make Israel jealous. So now, God is not local anymore. He's got worldwide distribution. He's bigger than the Internet! And sometimes you will be surprised who has a good word for you. The people who "should have" understood are not always the ones who do. Many are called...
Racism is not even the big thing now. There is too much separation at home, at work, at church, all over the world. Yeah, we are all different and we are all into different things but there will always be something in common with the person next to you. They are there with you. You may think your co-worker is retarded but guess what? Your dumb ass applied for the same job as the retard! Just be there as a coworker. Quit worrying how your neighbor rolls. You live in the same wack ass neighborhood! Mow his lawn if it bothers you that much. Other wise, shut your yap and live. If your apartment neighbor is jamming too loud, go party! Leave the lady in the express lane with 50 groceries alone! She can't count…NO WAIT! Forget that! Throw something at that damned lady! Don't worry about what kind of person is there with you. Just be happy that SOMEONE is there.
We are not alone. If we close our eyes and cover our ears sometimes, we can learn to just be. And then maybe we will learn to be with others.
All this week lets see if we can't learn to erase the separation within our own communities…
EXACTLY! And see I need to put aside my fear of bad food, or voodoo and focus on the greater good. All that matters is we are both hungry, YOU have food and you are sharing. Forget the negatives. Let's focus on the positives to acheive our common goals. And thank you for the food! I may be a little late and a lot drunk when I get there...
Preach, brotha preach! This is another reason why you need to watch American Zeitgeist!
JR
just wait until my diatribe on the latests violaters!
The King Kids
The more I read your blogs and of course some of the comments, the more that I learn about you. Interesting.......
I tell the people. If you wanna know me, it's all here!
Life is good. I'm sharing it with the world. So this is life the way I see it...
Thursday, August 21, 2008
The King Children
Current mood: argumentative
Category: Life
So I live in Atlanta (The Metro Area). My church is across the street from the King Memorial and around the block from the King childhood house. The King family still holds a little weight around these parts. However, since Coretta passed, all HELL has broken loose.
Most recently, Dexter King is suing Bernice King and Martin Luther King III claiming they've opened competing centers. In July, Bernice and Martin sued Dexter to get him to open the King Center's books.
So, too sum up. the middle remaining child is throwing a public tantrum over the oldest and youngest children's new toys. All of this is probably in response to the oldest and youngest's previous tantrum over the middle child taking over the old toybox. Three 40 and 50 year old babies acting out because they miss mommy and daddy.
I'll tell you no one misses Mommy and Daddy more than the rest of us. Martin Luther King Jr. is a rare breed not because he could walk on water like Jesus, and he didn't starve himself like Gandhi. He was like all three because he gave up being a regular husband and father to be our leader. His connection with the world went beyond his family. Maybe that's is the biggest sacrifice he made. Even bigger than his own life. Because all we left with is his legacy and three crying ass babies.
People always ask if we are living Dr. King's dreams today. Barack is going to win the presidency, largely due to the help of "The Queen of All Media" Oprah Winfrey. We feel a little less scared to talk crazy to white people. Some people say we still have a way to go.
I wonder what Dr. King would say.
And now it's his children showing their asses. So, even in a family that represents unity there is discord. We may be working so hard to get the outside world to accept each other that we are neglecting our own families, our own communities, our own congregation, and our own co-workers. Are we being lazy and disguising it as lofty ideals. "Yeah let's save the world. Who cares if MY child falls off, I'll be a hero to the world."
We forgive geniuses for having messy rooms. We marvel at the successful business woman with a meticulous house and the messy love life. We pay tithes to pastor who can't keep his dick in his pants. It's been OK to neglect certain parts of our lives for success in others. How can we feel complete as a community if we look down on some and look past others?
Church members look into each other's bedrooms, love lives, businesses, bank accounts. Let's stick to the basics. Make sure every member has a bible. Make every member knows how to read. Let's do what we can for our family members. If we are getting played and playing games in our own family, what are we going to put out to the world when we go out there? If we can't keep it real with people we've been around all our lives, who is going to trust you outside your house.
What do you all say? Is it OK to neglect your family to focus on the world? Is the King family just keeping it real? Don't all families have problems? Or is that the problem with the world? Is it wrong that we assume families should be dysfunctional?
Let me hear it. All I know is I'm tired of fighting over dumb shit!
well my brotha you have brought up a good point. Have many of us gotten so focused on what the world thinks that we have forgotten about family. Are we to buy trying to make a dollar instead of spending quality time with our children. What are we teaching our children about family. You know they learn rom example. Have many of us gotten to tired and lazy to even take the time to focus on family. Or are we to busy minding others business and judging others instead of caring. What did Martin give his life for. I thought it was for us to have the freedom of caring for our family as a people not individuals. Why does it seem like other races are taking full advantage of the door Martin opened when he opened it for all of us. Makes me wonder. So many people need to stop talking and start listening and doing something positive. Change is now and these fools don't even see it. So sad.
THIS IS MY SISTER EVERYBODY!!!
That's how we ROLL!
Hey Jason...(jus wanted to say hi first)..anyhoo do u remember the times when ur parents would leave u and ur sibling(s) @ home alone? Same thing..let the chaos begin... Being the middle girl of three girls there was always some sorta double teaming going on and sometimes I was on the outside of the duo determined to cause some mess.. "It's a family affair" that's what they say...even the Cosby's(in real life) didn't live upto the persona they displayed on television. Bill possibly fathering another child (proven to be false but he clearly had an affair)...Lisa Bonet's sex scene @ age 19 in "Angel Heart" It's all simple til that child starts to see themselves as an individual and there decisions grow beyond deciding on what cereal they want in the morning....nurturing, loving, and caring for them doesn't always determined that that seed will grow into a beautiful "Afican Violet".. Thank u for Jason Pearlicia
Oh yeah when the parents left...
But I'm no porn addict or sex fiend. (I think) In fact, I am pretty sure that all the unsupervised shenanigans in my life were over ruled by what I knew my parents believed was best for me. I'm not a perfect child and a far from perfect as an adult but I work towards honoring my parents with the work that is my life. I'm an individual but I still come from a family and maybe it's the competitive edge in me but I want my family to improve not disintegrate.
I think that the family is having every regular family problems, but since their family before them were public figures, it gives them another way to whine and cry about the others.
We have a local lady who owned a pizza place, and had 4 kids. The one moved back, and forced the other two into lesser roles, so they opened their own. The mom and sister immediately blocked them from using any recipe's that the old place had. But it didn't get into the public eye, because they didn't have the popularity that Dr King had obviously.
Unfortunately, people like to surround themselves with yes people, and not common sense people, so we get stupid things like this
Damned Yes people! That's why I only deal with people different than me. Everybody is not supposed to match all the time!
All families are dysfunctional. All you have to do is catch them when they think nobody's watching. The question becomes how readily do we throw our business into the public spotlight? How eager are we to put each other down in order to uplift ourselves? I am the oldest of 4 kids. My mom worked hard to make up for what my dad wasn't around to do. We fought like cats and dogs when she went to work. But when she got home she'd line us up like little soldiers. I can almost remember the speech word for word... the theme was that this world is full of obstacles and it is the family's responsibility to always uphold and support the other members. We were punished more severely for hurting each other than for any other offense. Even as adults, we know that we are not perfect, and we don't always agree, but we never tear each other down. No matter what. Charity starts in the home. That's how you build good citizens.
Wonderful family values! The problem with people in public demand sometimes is they have to sacrifice the home life for the public one. And we see what happens to the neglected children, no matter who their parents are.
Category: Life
So I live in Atlanta (The Metro Area). My church is across the street from the King Memorial and around the block from the King childhood house. The King family still holds a little weight around these parts. However, since Coretta passed, all HELL has broken loose.
Most recently, Dexter King is suing Bernice King and Martin Luther King III claiming they've opened competing centers. In July, Bernice and Martin sued Dexter to get him to open the King Center's books.
So, too sum up. the middle remaining child is throwing a public tantrum over the oldest and youngest children's new toys. All of this is probably in response to the oldest and youngest's previous tantrum over the middle child taking over the old toybox. Three 40 and 50 year old babies acting out because they miss mommy and daddy.
I'll tell you no one misses Mommy and Daddy more than the rest of us. Martin Luther King Jr. is a rare breed not because he could walk on water like Jesus, and he didn't starve himself like Gandhi. He was like all three because he gave up being a regular husband and father to be our leader. His connection with the world went beyond his family. Maybe that's is the biggest sacrifice he made. Even bigger than his own life. Because all we left with is his legacy and three crying ass babies.
People always ask if we are living Dr. King's dreams today. Barack is going to win the presidency, largely due to the help of "The Queen of All Media" Oprah Winfrey. We feel a little less scared to talk crazy to white people. Some people say we still have a way to go.
I wonder what Dr. King would say.
And now it's his children showing their asses. So, even in a family that represents unity there is discord. We may be working so hard to get the outside world to accept each other that we are neglecting our own families, our own communities, our own congregation, and our own co-workers. Are we being lazy and disguising it as lofty ideals. "Yeah let's save the world. Who cares if MY child falls off, I'll be a hero to the world."
We forgive geniuses for having messy rooms. We marvel at the successful business woman with a meticulous house and the messy love life. We pay tithes to pastor who can't keep his dick in his pants. It's been OK to neglect certain parts of our lives for success in others. How can we feel complete as a community if we look down on some and look past others?
Church members look into each other's bedrooms, love lives, businesses, bank accounts. Let's stick to the basics. Make sure every member has a bible. Make every member knows how to read. Let's do what we can for our family members. If we are getting played and playing games in our own family, what are we going to put out to the world when we go out there? If we can't keep it real with people we've been around all our lives, who is going to trust you outside your house.
What do you all say? Is it OK to neglect your family to focus on the world? Is the King family just keeping it real? Don't all families have problems? Or is that the problem with the world? Is it wrong that we assume families should be dysfunctional?
Let me hear it. All I know is I'm tired of fighting over dumb shit!
well my brotha you have brought up a good point. Have many of us gotten so focused on what the world thinks that we have forgotten about family. Are we to buy trying to make a dollar instead of spending quality time with our children. What are we teaching our children about family. You know they learn rom example. Have many of us gotten to tired and lazy to even take the time to focus on family. Or are we to busy minding others business and judging others instead of caring. What did Martin give his life for. I thought it was for us to have the freedom of caring for our family as a people not individuals. Why does it seem like other races are taking full advantage of the door Martin opened when he opened it for all of us. Makes me wonder. So many people need to stop talking and start listening and doing something positive. Change is now and these fools don't even see it. So sad.
THIS IS MY SISTER EVERYBODY!!!
That's how we ROLL!
Hey Jason...(jus wanted to say hi first)..anyhoo do u remember the times when ur parents would leave u and ur sibling(s) @ home alone? Same thing..let the chaos begin... Being the middle girl of three girls there was always some sorta double teaming going on and sometimes I was on the outside of the duo determined to cause some mess.. "It's a family affair" that's what they say...even the Cosby's(in real life) didn't live upto the persona they displayed on television. Bill possibly fathering another child (proven to be false but he clearly had an affair)...Lisa Bonet's sex scene @ age 19 in "Angel Heart" It's all simple til that child starts to see themselves as an individual and there decisions grow beyond deciding on what cereal they want in the morning....nurturing, loving, and caring for them doesn't always determined that that seed will grow into a beautiful "Afican Violet".. Thank u for Jason Pearlicia
Oh yeah when the parents left...
But I'm no porn addict or sex fiend. (I think) In fact, I am pretty sure that all the unsupervised shenanigans in my life were over ruled by what I knew my parents believed was best for me. I'm not a perfect child and a far from perfect as an adult but I work towards honoring my parents with the work that is my life. I'm an individual but I still come from a family and maybe it's the competitive edge in me but I want my family to improve not disintegrate.
I think that the family is having every regular family problems, but since their family before them were public figures, it gives them another way to whine and cry about the others.
We have a local lady who owned a pizza place, and had 4 kids. The one moved back, and forced the other two into lesser roles, so they opened their own. The mom and sister immediately blocked them from using any recipe's that the old place had. But it didn't get into the public eye, because they didn't have the popularity that Dr King had obviously.
Unfortunately, people like to surround themselves with yes people, and not common sense people, so we get stupid things like this
Damned Yes people! That's why I only deal with people different than me. Everybody is not supposed to match all the time!
All families are dysfunctional. All you have to do is catch them when they think nobody's watching. The question becomes how readily do we throw our business into the public spotlight? How eager are we to put each other down in order to uplift ourselves? I am the oldest of 4 kids. My mom worked hard to make up for what my dad wasn't around to do. We fought like cats and dogs when she went to work. But when she got home she'd line us up like little soldiers. I can almost remember the speech word for word... the theme was that this world is full of obstacles and it is the family's responsibility to always uphold and support the other members. We were punished more severely for hurting each other than for any other offense. Even as adults, we know that we are not perfect, and we don't always agree, but we never tear each other down. No matter what. Charity starts in the home. That's how you build good citizens.
Wonderful family values! The problem with people in public demand sometimes is they have to sacrifice the home life for the public one. And we see what happens to the neglected children, no matter who their parents are.
Thursday, August 7, 2008
Strawberry Letter
Current mood: blessed
Category: Romance and Relationships
I was half-sleep listening to the radio yesterday morning. THIS woke me up! Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse:
Am I Doing Right By Her?
Hi Shirley, Steve, and Tommy im a 35 year old manager of a company and im having issues with my relationship. My girlfriend has been complaining about my sexual performance and earlier last year on my 35th birthday (9/22) i came home early from work to see my girlfriend having sex with another man..However, i was not suprized because around June i overherd my girlfriend and her friends joking about my sexual length, width, and performance. I had thoughts of leaving her sometimes. I only think she stays with me for my money. She has an 8 year old son whom i get along with great she often tells me im a waste of a good looking brother. Since December we both agreed i cannot satisfy her and I've been paying the man she has been cheating on me with 300 dollars a week to sleep with her and keep her satisfied. I give an extra 100 dollars if she wants him to spend the night. I'm going out of my mind right now while she is sleeping with another man. As I write this, I'm in her sons room playing video games with him while she's with this man. More than once I have found myself sleeping in his room. . . he sleeps at the foot of the bed while i sleep at the head of the bed. I often cry myself to sleep and recently she has been talking to me with attitudes and disrespecting me and telling her friends. Her friends now call me Norbit and think its funny....i hate my life. I am a 35 year old man sleeping in a small bed with an 8 year old with super hero bedsheets. Is there anyway my relationship could get any worse than this? ps. Shirley does size really matter? sincerly Am I Doing Right By Her?
What a biggity, bitch! This man can't even compare his self to Norbit. Even Norbit had a fine woman chasing him. This man has no women. I'm willing to bet he lives in Atlanta because this is the epicenter of weak, simple men in this country. He doesn't even have as much money as he thinks. If he did, his house would have another room for him to sleep in. Yet, the genius thinks he can afford $1200 to $4800 a month for his girlfriend to pay her gigolo.
He could be donating his money, if he really had it like that. Hippy chicks like philanthropists and they don't mind bad sex so much. He could be investing, stacking his so-called MONEY and REALLY getting wealthy. Then the women that are after him for his money won't give a care how bad he is in bed. Or he could just spend the money on himself. Buy hookers! Or go to the strip club. $1200 can go a long way and if you have more…
And then today!
Good Man as Long as We're Not in the Bed
Steve and Shirley, I have a bit of a dilemma I have been single for 2 years after a bitter break up with my husband of 10 yrs. who was very insecure, jealous, and emotionally abusive. I have now met a man who is secure in whom he is, has a great job, and is good with my children. As we began to spend time together I thought in the beginning that he was avoiding having sex with me because he really liked me and wanted to wait. Well as time has progressed my home was broken into and he end up moving in my home so I could feel secure. Now that I'm over the fear of being alone and ready to be intimate I find out he has a problem rising to the occasion. At first he blamed it on the medicine he was taking and keeps saying he told the doctor but still no answers to why. Not only that at night he wants to fondle me but can't please me, and when I get angry he wants to talk dirty and say just wait I'm going to take care of you. Now I am a good woman and patient but I need satisfaction and I am not receiving it. Now I am confused as to if I should end the relationship or find a maintenance man? I know this man is good to me but he cannot satisfy my sexual appetite and that's a problem I have been waiting 2 yrs to be faced with this. Help me please.. Sincerly, Been waiting to long for this
I HAD TO ADD THIS ONE!
Both these men suffer from the same affliction. They have no sense of self. Everyone has a place. Everyone has a match. These men are in situations they don't belong in. They need to find their matches. Some women out there are into the Micropenis.
The truth is the only size that matters is the size or these:
No woman wants a man with baby balls.
Men need big nuts! Men need to stand up for themselves. Stand up for who you are. Whoever you are!
Big thing, small thing, performance is affected by the partner. If you are not compatible with the person you're with, find the mate for you. The first guy may feel weak now but if he sucked it up and went out and found his true mate, he could be banging it out the box. With the right stimulus guy 2 could go from noodle boy to cucumber man.
I'm not talking about little blue pills or any thing unnatural:
I'm talking about the 90% of sex. Too many focus on the 10%
If we start back focusing on the 90 and tried reconnecting with our trues selves before we run out to share anything with the world or that one HOT girl! [She's WAY too hot for you!] , we can truly begin to enjoy what life has to offer us. These men need some time alone AND they need to learn to be OKAY with it. Then they can go out and find what excites them.
Good luck to them and to you all!
Oh shit! I forgot about celibacy! Maybe if the second guy saved it for the one he is supposed to be with he would be still going today.
Ohhh!!! All the nice ladies with so many delights for the patient man. FELLAS!!! We better get on board. Good stuff in the future
Good stuff...
I feel sorry for these men. I agree w/ all points made by you and your other readers. But it seems so apparent that these relationships lack true love. If a man loves a woman he should be able to find other ways of pleasing her. And if she loves him she will realize that he is a man, not a god, and help him to overcome. What's wrong with these people trying some different toys or techniques? Are they doing the 24-hour play that R Kelly told them about in the 90's? And there are not enough good men to go around for women to be dogging the good ones!
Love!!! True Love....
What a wonderful thing
UPDATE 2010
I might live with the second guy. His girl told me the same thing a few months ago. But she said it's because he is diabetic and he doesn't want to admit he is. SAME shit to me as above. And he keeps telling me he's pimpin and these women don't turn him on. One thing I HATE is niggahs lying on they dicks. If you're fucking, I don't care either way. If a woman doesn't turn you on, leave her. If you keep messing with her and she keeps telling EVERYONE you don't fuck her, you have a problem or two. Personal problems and with all personal problems. Keep that shit to yourself.
Category: Romance and Relationships
I was half-sleep listening to the radio yesterday morning. THIS woke me up! Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse:
Am I Doing Right By Her?
Hi Shirley, Steve, and Tommy im a 35 year old manager of a company and im having issues with my relationship. My girlfriend has been complaining about my sexual performance and earlier last year on my 35th birthday (9/22) i came home early from work to see my girlfriend having sex with another man..However, i was not suprized because around June i overherd my girlfriend and her friends joking about my sexual length, width, and performance. I had thoughts of leaving her sometimes. I only think she stays with me for my money. She has an 8 year old son whom i get along with great she often tells me im a waste of a good looking brother. Since December we both agreed i cannot satisfy her and I've been paying the man she has been cheating on me with 300 dollars a week to sleep with her and keep her satisfied. I give an extra 100 dollars if she wants him to spend the night. I'm going out of my mind right now while she is sleeping with another man. As I write this, I'm in her sons room playing video games with him while she's with this man. More than once I have found myself sleeping in his room. . . he sleeps at the foot of the bed while i sleep at the head of the bed. I often cry myself to sleep and recently she has been talking to me with attitudes and disrespecting me and telling her friends. Her friends now call me Norbit and think its funny....i hate my life. I am a 35 year old man sleeping in a small bed with an 8 year old with super hero bedsheets. Is there anyway my relationship could get any worse than this? ps. Shirley does size really matter? sincerly Am I Doing Right By Her?
What a biggity, bitch! This man can't even compare his self to Norbit. Even Norbit had a fine woman chasing him. This man has no women. I'm willing to bet he lives in Atlanta because this is the epicenter of weak, simple men in this country. He doesn't even have as much money as he thinks. If he did, his house would have another room for him to sleep in. Yet, the genius thinks he can afford $1200 to $4800 a month for his girlfriend to pay her gigolo.
He could be donating his money, if he really had it like that. Hippy chicks like philanthropists and they don't mind bad sex so much. He could be investing, stacking his so-called MONEY and REALLY getting wealthy. Then the women that are after him for his money won't give a care how bad he is in bed. Or he could just spend the money on himself. Buy hookers! Or go to the strip club. $1200 can go a long way and if you have more…
And then today!
Good Man as Long as We're Not in the Bed
Steve and Shirley, I have a bit of a dilemma I have been single for 2 years after a bitter break up with my husband of 10 yrs. who was very insecure, jealous, and emotionally abusive. I have now met a man who is secure in whom he is, has a great job, and is good with my children. As we began to spend time together I thought in the beginning that he was avoiding having sex with me because he really liked me and wanted to wait. Well as time has progressed my home was broken into and he end up moving in my home so I could feel secure. Now that I'm over the fear of being alone and ready to be intimate I find out he has a problem rising to the occasion. At first he blamed it on the medicine he was taking and keeps saying he told the doctor but still no answers to why. Not only that at night he wants to fondle me but can't please me, and when I get angry he wants to talk dirty and say just wait I'm going to take care of you. Now I am a good woman and patient but I need satisfaction and I am not receiving it. Now I am confused as to if I should end the relationship or find a maintenance man? I know this man is good to me but he cannot satisfy my sexual appetite and that's a problem I have been waiting 2 yrs to be faced with this. Help me please.. Sincerly, Been waiting to long for this
I HAD TO ADD THIS ONE!
Both these men suffer from the same affliction. They have no sense of self. Everyone has a place. Everyone has a match. These men are in situations they don't belong in. They need to find their matches. Some women out there are into the Micropenis.
The truth is the only size that matters is the size or these:
No woman wants a man with baby balls.
Men need big nuts! Men need to stand up for themselves. Stand up for who you are. Whoever you are!
Big thing, small thing, performance is affected by the partner. If you are not compatible with the person you're with, find the mate for you. The first guy may feel weak now but if he sucked it up and went out and found his true mate, he could be banging it out the box. With the right stimulus guy 2 could go from noodle boy to cucumber man.
I'm not talking about little blue pills or any thing unnatural:
I'm talking about the 90% of sex. Too many focus on the 10%
If we start back focusing on the 90 and tried reconnecting with our trues selves before we run out to share anything with the world or that one HOT girl! [She's WAY too hot for you!] , we can truly begin to enjoy what life has to offer us. These men need some time alone AND they need to learn to be OKAY with it. Then they can go out and find what excites them.
Good luck to them and to you all!
Oh shit! I forgot about celibacy! Maybe if the second guy saved it for the one he is supposed to be with he would be still going today.
Ohhh!!! All the nice ladies with so many delights for the patient man. FELLAS!!! We better get on board. Good stuff in the future
Good stuff...
I feel sorry for these men. I agree w/ all points made by you and your other readers. But it seems so apparent that these relationships lack true love. If a man loves a woman he should be able to find other ways of pleasing her. And if she loves him she will realize that he is a man, not a god, and help him to overcome. What's wrong with these people trying some different toys or techniques? Are they doing the 24-hour play that R Kelly told them about in the 90's? And there are not enough good men to go around for women to be dogging the good ones!
Love!!! True Love....
What a wonderful thing
UPDATE 2010
I might live with the second guy. His girl told me the same thing a few months ago. But she said it's because he is diabetic and he doesn't want to admit he is. SAME shit to me as above. And he keeps telling me he's pimpin and these women don't turn him on. One thing I HATE is niggahs lying on they dicks. If you're fucking, I don't care either way. If a woman doesn't turn you on, leave her. If you keep messing with her and she keeps telling EVERYONE you don't fuck her, you have a problem or two. Personal problems and with all personal problems. Keep that shit to yourself.
Friday, August 1, 2008
A Few Things
Current mood: contemplative
Category: MySpace
I don't really write these kinds of blogs. I've just been having a few things on my mind lately:
Let me start with announcements:
I just signed up for 5000 texts and picture messages a month. I STILL will not be texting as much. After three texts each, we are having a conversation. When you get "call when you can.", the texting is over till you call.
I will be deleting almost ALL my new "friends". I just want you to read my blogs. I don't want to chat (unless it's about my blogs). I am not trying to get at you. [Even though some of you...(What I dream about doing..)] I am sticking to my REAL friends on MySpace and those who support my writing. So, goodbye babies!
I usually don't talk about my life but I have been so focused on living, there is little else to talk about lately.
I'm beginning to believe you can't be nice to people. You have to hold back. People truly take kindness for weakness. Even though people who do that to me are in for a rude awakening, I'm getting tired of pulling the rug out from under people. It's not just random people trying to take advantage. It's dating, It's not being monogamous [CLEARLY STATED AT THE OUTSET] but being too nice. It's women going WAY overboard to hold on to something that isn't there.
There was a blog a young guy used to write from LA about that very thing and I hadn't experienced it yet. I thought he was embellishing or leaving something out. He HAD to be making promises to these women. NOT THE CASE! Bachelors have to have rules. Can't break them NOT ONE BIT!
I have more...
...And not only in the dating world. I have always worked in customer service. Car sales though! Is WAY different! If you are nice to a customer on a car lot or repair shop or tire shop (just a few of the many things we do here!), they WILL NEVER GO ANYWHERE ELSE! All day the broke people call begging. EVERYDAY! Sucking the life out us. With the heat and the price of gas, I'm going to have to politely ask all my customers to GET OUT OF MY DAMNED FACE!!!. Thank you kindly.
I'm done venting for now. I have some hearts to go break...
No more texts???? Oh NO!!!! What's the world coming to? LOL! We are becoming a text happy society aren't we? Guess what, I heard there's actually a language for texts and you can add it to your job resume'...now aint that some shit?
I gotta say hold up on deleting the friends. After all, what would life be if 500 complete strangers couldn't read your most intimate thoughts on a regular basis?
And, I can't speak about being nice to people. But, I do believe that slapping is a vastly underutilized form of physical expression! Damn it, sometimes people just don't get it! But, we should be more than willing to help.
And, in conclusion, LONG LIVE THE PLAYA RULES! Like you said it's dating, it ain't a relationship!
Wow...I agree with you on everything you express.
I can't stand texting. pick up the phone and call me. It's okay to text once in a while, but if everytime we talk, it's through a text...I'm annoyed, i don't like it, yet i'm too nice to tell them, so i go ahead and text back.
And it seems like i can't be nice without a guy thinking i want them or that i'm trying to win points with them or that i'm trying to compete with other women their dating. Naturally i am nice, caring and giving. If i'm albe to, i will help you out and be there for you, but that doesn't mean i want to hook up with you, And when i pull back, because their getting the wrong idea, all of a sudden i'm considered mean.
i do things not expecting anything back.
As far as deleting your NEW friends: i understand, that's why my page is private, that's why not even my family can request me as a friend when they find me, have to request them and that's why everyone who is on my page are people i know personally, people i have interacted with on a personal level. Well, i'm sure the people you let go, will miss you and probably regret their actions.
I know this cat Twis(You know who i'm talking about) ain't speaking bout the playa rules!!!! lol
I had to comment about this. Well when it comes to being too nice to a female in that particular context you will be over time eventually looked at as a wuss! I say be mean if it warrants itself, and when I say that I mean be yourself! If your an asshole by trade then be an asshole with the opposite sex. If they are really trynna get to know you then you will know. You don't have to commandeer yourself to someone else's standards when it comes to a relationship. Its better this way because both parties know where they stand! If your not an asshole and you really are a nice guy then be that and nothing else. That particular other will eventually come around! Don't stress........
In essence: BE YOURSELF(Whatever your comfortable with).
No Kudos
JR
BTW stop dreaming about talking to the ones you want to talk to on myspace and just send them a note because you never know untill you try........
JR
Oh I do! Only ever do. Never try.
<---Just realized LA is not his friend and is not subscribed to his blog :-O
(Damn, that was QUICK.)
BTW: I replied to your blog comment - Gracias.
~Sway
OMG!
LADIES AND GENTLEMEN. THIS MAN IS THE KING OF BLOGS. FORGET ALL THAT CORNY SHIT PEOPLE DO TO GET THEIR BLOGS READ. READ THIS MAN FOR PURE INFOTAINMENT!
CHASE SWAYZE!!!LADIES AND GENTLEMEN!!!!
Let me just say I just starting texting 2 months ago. While I believe that texting has its place (trying to conserve day time minutes, too loud to have a conversion where you are, just needing to a relay a quick note, etc) it should not be your main form of conversion. It would take forever to get to know someone that way. And there is no way an emoticon can relay feelings better that the inflection in someone's voice. So I say pick up the phone!
Also, If you are a nice guy, continue being nice. Don't let people change who you are as a person. I know some people read more than what's there, but just change your interactions with those individuals. I try to be nice in general but sometimes nice just doesn't cut it, so get where your coming from. But I know I feel about myself when I am nice to others. But sometimes, not often, the bitch comes out. And then I think, well I tried to be nice but he only understood bitch.
Just adding my two cents...
I get the same when I choose to assert my authoritai! All of a sudden not being a pushover makes you pushy.
Good grief.
You're safe baby! I'm going to need somewhere to crash next year for Caribana.
Category: MySpace
I don't really write these kinds of blogs. I've just been having a few things on my mind lately:
Let me start with announcements:
I just signed up for 5000 texts and picture messages a month. I STILL will not be texting as much. After three texts each, we are having a conversation. When you get "call when you can.", the texting is over till you call.
I will be deleting almost ALL my new "friends". I just want you to read my blogs. I don't want to chat (unless it's about my blogs). I am not trying to get at you. [Even though some of you...(What I dream about doing..)] I am sticking to my REAL friends on MySpace and those who support my writing. So, goodbye babies!
I usually don't talk about my life but I have been so focused on living, there is little else to talk about lately.
I'm beginning to believe you can't be nice to people. You have to hold back. People truly take kindness for weakness. Even though people who do that to me are in for a rude awakening, I'm getting tired of pulling the rug out from under people. It's not just random people trying to take advantage. It's dating, It's not being monogamous [CLEARLY STATED AT THE OUTSET] but being too nice. It's women going WAY overboard to hold on to something that isn't there.
There was a blog a young guy used to write from LA about that very thing and I hadn't experienced it yet. I thought he was embellishing or leaving something out. He HAD to be making promises to these women. NOT THE CASE! Bachelors have to have rules. Can't break them NOT ONE BIT!
I have more...
...And not only in the dating world. I have always worked in customer service. Car sales though! Is WAY different! If you are nice to a customer on a car lot or repair shop or tire shop (just a few of the many things we do here!), they WILL NEVER GO ANYWHERE ELSE! All day the broke people call begging. EVERYDAY! Sucking the life out us. With the heat and the price of gas, I'm going to have to politely ask all my customers to GET OUT OF MY DAMNED FACE!!!. Thank you kindly.
I'm done venting for now. I have some hearts to go break...
No more texts???? Oh NO!!!! What's the world coming to? LOL! We are becoming a text happy society aren't we? Guess what, I heard there's actually a language for texts and you can add it to your job resume'...now aint that some shit?
I gotta say hold up on deleting the friends. After all, what would life be if 500 complete strangers couldn't read your most intimate thoughts on a regular basis?
And, I can't speak about being nice to people. But, I do believe that slapping is a vastly underutilized form of physical expression! Damn it, sometimes people just don't get it! But, we should be more than willing to help.
And, in conclusion, LONG LIVE THE PLAYA RULES! Like you said it's dating, it ain't a relationship!
Wow...I agree with you on everything you express.
I can't stand texting. pick up the phone and call me. It's okay to text once in a while, but if everytime we talk, it's through a text...I'm annoyed, i don't like it, yet i'm too nice to tell them, so i go ahead and text back.
And it seems like i can't be nice without a guy thinking i want them or that i'm trying to win points with them or that i'm trying to compete with other women their dating. Naturally i am nice, caring and giving. If i'm albe to, i will help you out and be there for you, but that doesn't mean i want to hook up with you, And when i pull back, because their getting the wrong idea, all of a sudden i'm considered mean.
i do things not expecting anything back.
As far as deleting your NEW friends: i understand, that's why my page is private, that's why not even my family can request me as a friend when they find me, have to request them and that's why everyone who is on my page are people i know personally, people i have interacted with on a personal level. Well, i'm sure the people you let go, will miss you and probably regret their actions.
I know this cat Twis(You know who i'm talking about) ain't speaking bout the playa rules!!!! lol
I had to comment about this. Well when it comes to being too nice to a female in that particular context you will be over time eventually looked at as a wuss! I say be mean if it warrants itself, and when I say that I mean be yourself! If your an asshole by trade then be an asshole with the opposite sex. If they are really trynna get to know you then you will know. You don't have to commandeer yourself to someone else's standards when it comes to a relationship. Its better this way because both parties know where they stand! If your not an asshole and you really are a nice guy then be that and nothing else. That particular other will eventually come around! Don't stress........
In essence: BE YOURSELF(Whatever your comfortable with).
No Kudos
JR
BTW stop dreaming about talking to the ones you want to talk to on myspace and just send them a note because you never know untill you try........
JR
Oh I do! Only ever do. Never try.
<---Just realized LA is not his friend and is not subscribed to his blog :-O
(Damn, that was QUICK.)
BTW: I replied to your blog comment - Gracias.
~Sway
OMG!
LADIES AND GENTLEMEN. THIS MAN IS THE KING OF BLOGS. FORGET ALL THAT CORNY SHIT PEOPLE DO TO GET THEIR BLOGS READ. READ THIS MAN FOR PURE INFOTAINMENT!
CHASE SWAYZE!!!LADIES AND GENTLEMEN!!!!
Let me just say I just starting texting 2 months ago. While I believe that texting has its place (trying to conserve day time minutes, too loud to have a conversion where you are, just needing to a relay a quick note, etc) it should not be your main form of conversion. It would take forever to get to know someone that way. And there is no way an emoticon can relay feelings better that the inflection in someone's voice. So I say pick up the phone!
Also, If you are a nice guy, continue being nice. Don't let people change who you are as a person. I know some people read more than what's there, but just change your interactions with those individuals. I try to be nice in general but sometimes nice just doesn't cut it, so get where your coming from. But I know I feel about myself when I am nice to others. But sometimes, not often, the bitch comes out. And then I think, well I tried to be nice but he only understood bitch.
Just adding my two cents...
I get the same when I choose to assert my authoritai! All of a sudden not being a pushover makes you pushy.
Good grief.
You're safe baby! I'm going to need somewhere to crash next year for Caribana.
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