What I Learned - Inner Harmony

I’m back. I’ve come down from the mountain top. I’m feeling good. About to feast and come Thursday, I will cease to exist as you know me.

It’s Good Friday and I’ve been delinquent lately so here is what I’ve leaned so far:
"My goal is not integration but inner-harmony"

I was watching Nip Tuck and I heard this phrase. A psychologist was talking about a multiple-personality patient. It hit me immediately! What a perfect analogy! How can we deal with the many, many personalities we come into contact with on a daily basis in the outside world, if we can deal with the few that exist within us?

We don’t have to be crazy or hear the voice of Morgan Freeman coming from our pet hamster. I’m talking about the voice that tells us what we should be doing vs. the voice that tells us what we want to be doing. I’m talking about the part of us that wants to be individual vs the part of us that longs for acceptance. (We see those battles on Facebook every day.) And what about the part of us (MEN) that want to bang everything moving vs the part that wants a nice wife and some kids (boys we can raise to bang everything else we never got to bang [and some we did]). Wouldn’t or doesn’t the world seem a better place when all those conflicting urges can live in harmony.

I wrote something about settling some time ago. Settling is what most of us do. Instead of learning to work somewhere (and it’s different for us all) in between the opposites that make us who we are. It’s natural to want to avoid confrontation so what do you think we do when the confrontation is within. Do we run? Of course, we settle.

Forget that, remember, this past 40 days was about learning to resist temptation and becoming stronger inside. Every book on self help will tell you a million and one ways to be a better person. They all work at least temporarily. The better books begin or end with self awareness. They all lead back to the one thing that, if worked properly, will bring lasting happiness. That is inner-harmony.

When we are at peace and accepting of who we are, where we are and where we are going, nothing can deter our happiness. I have to quote House Party 2 – "…be yourself. If people don’t like you for who you are, FUCK EM! Fuck ’em up against the wall!" And THAT is being Christian! After all, who kept it more real than Jesus. Like him or not, believe in him or not, he did it like Sinatra, his way. Find yours.

This should be a goal for all of us. As a group, Black people would be much better off if they strove for inner-harmony instead of integration, assimilation or acceptance. As individuals, we can interact more easily with one another if we don’t have our defenses up because we are living in harmony within ourselves. So lets start the journey by learning ourselves. Let’s win by being true to ourselves.


I love it!!!!!!! It still amazes me that those thoughts come out of your head.