Atlanta Drivers

Current mood: anxious
Category: Automotive

People in Atlanta stare too much (Period). They just look at you point blank in the face for absolutely now reason at all, blank expression and all.
Here's the story:

I'm driving home on the 285 (it's a freeway that circles the city in loop) after work just now. Traffic was flowing fine. The usual dickheads weren't on the freeway. As I got closer to the 85 interchange, the traffic seemed to slow down drastically. My first thought was that people were getting on the 85. But then traffic continued to be slow after we passed the 85. So maybe it was the people getting on from the 85. But no! Hardly anyone was getting on the freeway. Then all of a sudden it opened up. There was absolutely no reason for the traffic to slow down. My only guess now is that people were busy looking at other people getting on the 85 and getting off the 85. Simply staring. Stupid sons of bitches!!! Damn!

Pre-Nups?

It is indicative of our feelings on relationships. The pre-nuptial has become mandatory for up and coming couples. Middle class or above, you have to have one. It’s damned near a status symbol for movers and shakers.

But do we really need them? I say, if you don't know what a pre-nup entails and that there are different types, stop reading you don't need one, don't get married, go somewhere and learn to read or just shut the fuck up. (I had a long day I have to curse at someone)
So, back to pre-nups, the only type a person should need should be tied into a trust fund and provide for any children born before or after marriage. That's like to help one partner manage child support costs and to PROPERLY provide for the children should the marriage dissolve.
Additionally,  you need one is if you have something you need to keep in your original family, a namesake, or heirloom or something like that. Other than that, you don't need one.
The one man who called in a radio show and made an argument for not needing one said marriage is a gamble and if you lose, you lose. That radio show was what prompted this blog. He was right. I don't know about everyone else, that's why I wrote the bulletin, but I work for myself only a little. Everything I build is because ultimately I want a family to provide for. My plan includes amassing a certain amount of wealth before I get married and start my family. If, somewhere after I start my family, it doesn't work out, I lost. My newly ex-wife should have half. After all I worked for it so that she would have it. Of course I didn't plan on it ending that way but that’s the way the cookie crumbles. I am ambitious and no one can have that. If I got it before, I can get it again.
If you are reading this and you don't agree that we accumulate wealth to be secure for the day when we do start a family, then I want to hear from you. If you just simply don't agree then please have something smart to reply with. This is not about trends. I know over half of marriages end in divorce. That's why I am careful about commitment. That's why I'd rather not get married if the situation isn't exactly what I want. But I digress. That's what's up with me.

[2012 Addendum] This was written before I found about Robert Allen and Creating Wealth. Everyone who cares about what will happen to their family after they pass needs one. For the retards I told to shut up earlier - Thanks for hanging in there and learning how to read. A Pre-Nup is simply a contract that details what happens in case of divorce AND/OR death. If there is already a trust in place, it can be an amendment to the trust. It can simply say that you agree to split assets down the middle. It can say, for instance, you want your son to handle all business affairs and provide your new widow with a comfortable stipend that you two agreed upon beforehand.

The worst thing that can happen to a family is confusion after a loved one passes away. In the case of businesses, there are livelihoods beyond your immediate family at stake. It is simply mandatory. On the other side of the coin, you may need something in place to save your loved ones from your debts. Some things you want to pass on. Some things you don't

I'm just saying.

Childhood

Category: Life

My dad sent me this. I had to share it with my people. I just added some to the end to let yall know what's really up with me in regards to my generation and younger.
TO ALL THE KIDS WHO SURVIVED the 1930's 40's, 50's, 60's and 70's !!


First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they
carried us.


They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn't get
tested for diabetes

Our baby cribs were covered with bright colored lead-based paints.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, and when we rode our bikes,
we had no helmets, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking.

As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.

Riding in the back of a pick up on a warm day was always a special treat.

We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends, and NO ONE actually died from
this.

We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank soda pop with sugar
in it, but we weren't overweight because

WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back
when the streetlights came on.

No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.

We would spend hours building go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the
hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a
few times, we learned to solve the problem.

We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's, X-boxes, no video games , no 99
channels on cable, no video tape movies, no surround sound, no cell phones,
no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms..........WE HAD
FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no
lawsuits from these accidents.

We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt.

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned

HOW TO DEAL WITH IT ALL!

And YOU are one of them!CONGRATULATIONS!

You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as
kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own
good.

and while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave
their parents were.

Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors, doesn't it?!

I agree completely. The younger generation, even my generation, are bunch of punk assed cry babies. People smoke and drank and muthafuck a health club and there was still a baby boom. Now a days everyone is safe and "healthy" and they still have to take fertility drugs and vitamins just to have a healthy baby. We truly are some bitches. When I think of it, its a gottdamned shame! Think about yall when you wanna bithc and moan about babying a child or defending some punk assed retard. I'm done.

Yall be good.

Oh yeah if you really want to know what I'm doing. I am having a beer and a cigarette and watching Basketball. What kind of gay shit is that where we can't choose that as an option to what we are doing? The whole world is turning gay! (And by gay I mean GAY)

Al Sharpton

The situation with the Boondocks and Al Sharpton is exactly why we, as a community, no longer need iconoclastic leaders. Anyone knowledgeable and proactive enough to be concerned with his or her community knows what to do. Our previous leadership has shown the way. Current "leaders," including Al Sharpton, call for us as individuals to take a more proactive role in deciding the direction we want to take in our communities. Simply put, we know what to do. We just have to do it.

In the case of the Boondocks, you either like or you don't. After protesting for years to get more black representation on TV, now some choose to complain about the shows, movies, music or whatever we have now.
We have plenty of choices now. We can choose to support almost any type of entertainment we want. We have plenty of radios stations, the Cosby shows are in syndication as well as Martin and New York Undercover, and we have plenty of movies to watch. So watch what you want.
I can even go back to my community meeting last week. Apparently, we have unrestricted access to the local government. We can guide this community in any direction we choose. And we really don't need to beg politicians to do it for us. And this is the case in almost every community around the country.
So lets not follow anymore. Lets lead ourselves, our families, our communities. You know you can do it. DO IT! Do it! You know how to do it. Just remember, what would Jesus do, what would Martin/Malcolm do.

MySpace and Facebook Friends

Just wanted to say something about the number of friends I have and the number of friends some people have.

All of you who on here I either new before MySpace or I attempted to meet you on here. Those attempts are what I want to address.

I have at some point or another send all of you messages in the hopes of getting to know you better. Some of you responded. Some just added me as a friend and kept it moving. A few of you have become more than internet friends. And that's where I am today. I have a good number of friends on here. A few more than some. A few less than others. I used to wonder how people ended up with so many. Now I know.

I like people and I will continue to try and make connections with whoever I see fit to meet. I the connection isn't immediate then I just leave it be. I will never delete friends. I am an optimist. People come around. They read a blog or I read a bulletin. Shit happens. So I just leave it and let it happen. Maybe, one day, I will have a ton of freinds like the others. Just know that these are all people I gave a chance to get to know me. A few took it. Most did not. But for those who did not, there is always that chance. I remain open as long as I am on here.

Be good.

Pimpology 101

Current mood: jubilant
Category: Life


In no way do I condone or promote prostitution, pimping, panhandling, tricking, hoeing, phinaggling, the record industry, high maintenance dates or any other tom foolery referenced in this blog.

Every person who seeks wealth can learn something from Pimps. Pimping is one of the basest forms of capitalism. The Pimp represents the capitalist. The tricks represent the consumers. And the hoes represent the human [labor] aspect of capitalism.

Remember when I threw the record industry onto that list at the start of this blog. Imagine a the owner of a huge record distribution label (DISTRIBUTION not Def Jam). He doesn't sing nor does he or has he ever dropped a bead of sweat producing the music or the albums that he makes so much money off of. But he has control over the money spent producing the music and the albums as well as the human aspect of producing said music and albums. And we, the tricks (I mean consumers) buy into the whole dream that is the record industry. (Well, not me. It's all about illegal downloads and cheap/free dates over here)

Allow yourself to imagine the scenarios in various business settings all over the world. Begin to see the slickest sales men you can think up. Go as far outside of the box(stereotypes) as you can and take a walk with me. Let's respect the Pimpin and learn as much as we can.

I often listen to Suga Free. Not one of the best lyricist ever but a true Pimp. And he is definitely entertaining. But, being the eternal student that I am, I find small lessons in his Pimpin'. Which brings us to today's lesson from Pimpology 101:

"Don't nothing come to dreamers but dreams..." (Listen to Track #3 from The New Testament. The words before and after this quote are important but I want you all to find and listen to the music.[Its funner that way!])

Uncensored.

As I grow and learn, I am more easily able to distinguish dreams, goals, plans, ambition and vision. I'm sure we have all heard the quote before but true enlightenment comes in various ways to all of us.

What's amazing here is that Pimps sell dreams. They are a hard sale themselves and, most importantly, they are excellent at managing both dreams and dreamers. The most important thing is life is to find out your role. You may be a dreamer. For you, success will only come from effective management. You may be a manager. But everyone needs both to start out on the path to success. And, unlike most pimps, your dreams can come true.

So get out there. Respect the Pimpin. Play your role. I know I don't have to tell yall to Don't Fight the Pimpin. And be a success.

Tommorow's Lesson (Not really tommorow. In a few days probably) :
"Gleek Baddap Bop Shaba Da Pimp"

F#@&ing PETA

Fucking PETA!

My friend posted this blog with a video from PETA. The video is called “Why you should become a vegetarian.” It is the biggest piece of BS I have seen all day. No time to beat around the bush, apparently I am going to die of heart disease and I’m probably already impotent. Why are PETA members so utterly uninformed? Where the hell did they come from? And why do they waste so much time trying to convert the world to a vegan lifestyle with countless baseless factoids? The following is a list of reasons they gave and my responses to what are after being refute nothing more than opinions.

Know that I don’t support meat eating or vegetarianism. In fact, I am a quasi-vegan I eat red meat as little as possible. I haven’t eaten pork for over 14 years. If anything I am pro choice. People should be able to decide what they want to do based on their own personal experiences.

Some of these things are untrue some are but all are pretty much stupid. None of them are good reasons by themselves to change your beliefs.

 

           

           

           

1. Heart disease begins in child hood.

            Fact – Child hood heart disease is congenital. Congenital defects are mostly hereditary.  

2. A vegetarian diet reduces heart disease

            Probably true but every vegan I know is very sickly. Congratulations! Your heart is healthy but you have no where near enough blood in your body to keep you alive should you catch a cold.

3. Eating meat and dairy makes you fat.

Eating too much of anything does indeed make you fat. The average person does eat way too much meat and dairy and that is what makes them fat. Not enough vegetables and fruit also contributes. How about dietary guidelines vegan and non-vegan for everyone?

4. You shouldn’t have to lie to your kids about the food that you eat.

            What the fuck does this mean? Who does that?

5. In every package of chicken, there’s a little poop.

            Probably true and pretty disgusting.  But once every one goes vegan and the world is overrun with animals, there will be poop everywhere!

6. Meat is filthy and bloody.

            So is that filthy hemp T-shirt you’ve been wearing everyday for three weeks! Take a bath you dirty Hippy!

7. Because it isn’t fair.

            That’s just gay. What is fair? PETA has millions that they waste on Pam Anderson’s Hepatitis C having ass to run around naked in anti-fur ads. Feed some homeless people instead of making rich people richer.      

8. Because no living creature wants to see their family slaughtered.

            Sounds nice. But so what? Are people in Thailand going to stop taking money to let rich business men murder innocent people because everyone is vegan now? I think not.

9. Eating meat causes impotence.

            Damn! How can I refute this one? Oh! I know! Studies show the hormones in meat do cause impotence. THE HORMONES in meat. People, its OK to eat meat but not those BIG ASSES pieces of chicken. NO chicken should be that big. Just eat more small ones. Its OK.

10. Mad Cow is in the US.

            So what! Quit eating raw food. Red meat shouldn’t be red. COOK THAT SHIT! It should be brown when you eat it.

11. Its violence we can stop.

            Then how about spending millions on anti war ads? I know if you throw paint on my fur coat, I’mma fuck you up worse than the minks who’s skin I’m wearing.

12. No one should make a living by killing.

            So now yall want people to quit their jobs during a recession. Smart move.

13. It takes a small person to beat a defenseless animal.

            I don’t beat chickens. I eat them. And once in a while I choke mine. But I’m quite sure he doesn’t mind.

14. No animal deserves to die for your taste buds.

            Well how about some delicious mushrooms. You know those fungi that grow from dead things. Oh look how beautiful that plant is! It was fertilized with the remains of some animal who died of natural causes.

15. The grain used to feed them could feed them(starving people in another country).

            Then buy some you rich bastards!

16. More than Half the water used in the US goes to feeding animals.

            So what? It’s a lot of animals and guess what there will be more when we stop eating and killing them. So how about, ALMOST ALL the water used in the US going to random assed animals wandering around the country?

17. Because when animals feel pain they scream too.

            Well be careful not to step on that goats toes. And quit taking those sheep’s virginities! THOSE ARE NOT MOANS OF ECSTACY!

18. Because they’re defenseless.

            Damn good one! I always thought though that birds had eyes on the side of their heads to defend themselves from predators. And wait a minute! Aren’t cows’ and goats’ and wait, wait fish’s eyes are spaced that way too? I think I remember my eighth grade biology teacher calling that a defense mechanism.

19. Because they don’t want to die.

            Well I’m sure no one wants to die. But we all do. No one can change that. I sure if we were all super healthy and lived to be 200 on an overpopulated planet with wild animals running amuck, I would find someway to kill myself or kill all the idiots who keep invading my space.

20. Because they feel fear(Refer to #18)

            Wait a minute! I remember something else form eighth grade science. Fear is a defense mechanism also. How about that?

21. Because no matter how you slice it, its still flesh.

            Who says it isn’t? Quite tasty too! If I may add.      

22. Commerce is no excuse for murder.

            Sure it is. It is a BILLION dollar industry. But seriously, are we just complaining now about random factoids. I would still eat meat.

23. Even prisons aren’t this crowded(Picture of chickens in a chicken coop)

            Have you been to jail? Yes they are!

24. This is not what wings are for.

            Chicken can’t fly. And as far as I can tell from my visits to zoos and farms, they don’t really do anything with them. Except for at a cock fight. They flap all around then. But wait, that’s violence to animals never mind. So what are wings for?

25. Everyone wants to be free.

            Yeah that’s true just ask your over bred house pet.

26. Eating fish doesn’t make you a vegetarian.

            But aren’t fish pretty healthy? I guess we could just take fish oil…no…wait I think that comes from killing fish. Or…nope no other way to get omega threes in sufficient quantities? Gotta have those!

27. Because Might doesn’t make right.

            I have no idea what this means as far as why I shouldn’t eat meat. Anybody? Anybody?

28. Because you know this is wrong(it’s a man tossing a brick on top of a pigs head and a man crushing a bird with his bare hands neither for eating purposes)

            Hmmmm. Yeah that’s wrong. But I don’t eat pork. And I am pretty sure no one ate that pig so that was just random violence that had nothing to do with eating meat. So I am not sure how to stop that guy from doing things like that. And the bird was definitely not a bird that people eat. Nothing to do with eating. Probably not a reason to stop eating meat. But good try!

            All in all I have nothing against vegans, or Jesus Freaks or any other zealot. Feel free to share your opinion. But I have to call Shenanigans when people try to convert the world using opinion and rhetoric. If you have some actual factoids, please share. I like to know as much as I can about everything possible. But don’t sell me ideas as facts.

            Here’s a fact for PETA supporters. PETA spends less than most larger corporations percentage wise on actually helping other human beings. So while they spend millions on commercials showing starving children in other countries. Not one ounce of Tofu is being donated by PETA to the homeless IN AMERICA or to starving anything anywhere.

People don’t let emotional pleas distract you from facts. Fear is an emotion also. That’s why many propagandists use fear to motivate you. Like the thing about heart disease. Check it out. Know the facts. Make your own decisions.

[Comments]

I think maybe #27 is in reference to the whole Survival of the Fittest/Top of the Totem Pole theory I was gonna bring up in saying that this is just the way of the world.  Kill or be killed and (un)/fortunately (all on how one looks at it), humans are out of all species living are more apt to making sure they survive.  Now one might argue that humans can survive without eating meat which is true, but that doesn't mean they have to.  So anyway I guess  #27 is saying that even though we can do it because we are at the top of the lifeline eating pyramid, it doesn't make our actions right in doing anyway.  Though if we wanna get on right or wrong que sara sara about it, let me just point out that it has been shown more than once in the bible where animalistic sacrifices and dining are the way for humans to survive.  God supplied us with at least some if not all animals and plants to feed off of or sacrifice to him sustain the life He gave us.  A thousand times over there are references to Jesus Himself eating fish or giving fish for people to eat.  Let's not go there with right or wrong.  Anywho, I think that though this could be considered a serious issue to some, this blog is quite amusing and entertaining thanks to your additions JJ.  I actually didn't watch the whole video (-hey, i'm at work.  i didn't have time for all that.), I just thought what I did see was interesting enough to repost and if all it did was get a hilarious blog out of it then KUDOS cause I loved your quirks to each point, esp. #9 .  You should post this blog in a forum and see what type of convo you can strike up with the real public.  You would have to fix that video first though.  Peace. 

What women want

I thought I might explain some things because I have been encountering some strange women. Not strange in the weird, space ship, mystery kind of way. But strange in the out of the ordinary, I’m not used to these type of women way. This phenomenon is notable only because it may or may not be affecting the way I date. How do I begin? Let me just say it as straight as possible. I think I am having a hard time getting to it because this is really a perplexing situation. There are lines which I don’t want to cross. I have been opening myself up to people I barely know and this is all new to me. So I guess I just have to bite the bullet and go for it. What have I got to lose? I keep meeting women who continually misrepresent themselves. 
That would be fine by itself except for the wild ways in which they misrepresent themselves and their response to my reaction or lack thereof to their behavior. In the end I am put out, because I lose the woman and don’t get anything out of it. Now I’m thinking I should explain how I approach dating. 
There are two types of datable women. There are keepers and there are one night stand types. The keepers are quite simply girlfriend material. They are the ones you actually take out in public on dates and what not. The one night types are just for getting fucked out. They may get down right away or later on down the line but getting freaked out is all they are about. 
So the problem I am having lately is the blurring of the lines between these two types of women. I am frequently encountering women who are the one night types but they come across as the keepers. Then there is internal conflict because I actually grow to like these women as women. Explanation time again. I am trying not to get into specifics but in most cases the issue is derived from women actually claiming they are keepers. This means I tend to make an actual effort to get to know the women. It also means I become a little more patient when it comes to sex. You see with keepers you want to build something. So that is what I focus on more than the sex. So, after some major chit chatting, phone calls, dates, quality time or some combination of the four, my mind is all over the place. I am completely unfocused on what I should be focused on. I still think of sex but I think of it in a different way. I think of the morning after and the next step. But in actuality, with these women there is no next step. This causes me to be less assertive. Less physical. I know how to be a man when I need to be and when to be mannish. Just ask my friends. I am always the one telling them they need to be more assertive. There are just a few lines I don’t cross. In fact I stay at least 50 feet away from those lines. Two things I never want to be are a stalker and a date rapist. 

So, I talk a lot of shit but in those real intimate situations I am a little more cautious. Obviously, that often conflicts with my role as a man and leader in a relationship especially during the intimate times. Women need a man to be the initiator (to steal a friend’s word on the same subject). I always am but I respond to women’s cues. If there is no cue, I don’t act. If there is a mixed signal, I don’t act. If things are unclear, I don’t act. All of this is to say I avoid date rape situations. I don't push for sex unless I see an opening. If I'm alone with a woman and she has her arms crossed, legs crossed but internally is hoping I make a move, I never will. If I make a move and get rebuffed, I won't make another. Years ago, no meant no. Today, yes means yes. Sexually, there's nothing happening without an explicit invitation. I am a straight forward guy. I know how to ask for what I want. 
I am also a gentleman. I don’t get into details because of that. I save all advances for intimate moments. I never want to misrepresent the lady I am dating at the moment. I understand women not wanting to be misrepresented or disrespected. In today’s society, women have the opportunity to control their dating scene to the most intimate detail. But their reputation is still at risk. Also, I don’t believe most men know exactly HOW to be gentlemen. Men try but etiquette is lost on recent generations.

As a result, it is more important for women to be careful of their reputation. But then there is a problem with a few ladies. These ladies don’t know how to be casual and still save their reputation. So they sell this dream of chastity and deep relationships when all they really want is to hook up from time to time. I see this as lying about who you are. That in itself is bad. In order for one of these women and I to relate I need to not only buy their dream but pretend I didn’t on two levels. Intimately I have to pretend to the girl that I am there with her on this magical dream of casual dating and chastity together. (Read: an open AND exclusive relationship) Then I have to pretend that I am not buying the dream she is selling. (I have to agree to be celibate but still try to fuck) But then I have to buy the dream this woman is selling in fact. And that is the third lie. (And they say men lie) Like I said, the only reason this is important is because lately I have caught myself buying some of these dreams. Not to mention the increasing numbers of these types of women. 
I hope I was clear on my dilemma. I probably ran out of space and wrote too much. WOMEN I need help. What the hell is going on? How do I stop myself from falling folly to these fake women? How do I avoid becoming fake myself?




Following are comments from the original MySpace Post:

I don't know if it's that these women are fake and I'm not so sure you should group it together under the description of these women being such.  Maybe some of them want the booty and want someone to settle with and be long-term with, but don't necessarily have to be involved with that particular long-term person to have sex with them, and possibly maybe they have just not found that - long-term quality in you so they keep it moving.  Granted some of them may be fake, but I think what you have to do is not look to overcoming falling for these types, but do as you are.  Take each one individually.  Regardless how respectful you are, how careful you are with each one, you are dating.  You will not no who's who and will not be able to rely on signs because each one, though lots of them may have similarities, are different.  Despite the details that you have pointed out, you're still dating and dating is nothing more than a game where you have to find the right one.  Get to know each of them and weed out the good one(s).  That's just my perspective.  I'm at work and don't have time to look over this and make sure I'm typing the ideas I'd like to reflect, so hopefully I've done so successfully.  Good luck in trying to make sorts of it all.  Love.

I'm sure you are right. As I was reading your response I came to realize that my problem is not the "fake thing" but the whole game. Why can't we all just be straight shooters for real, for real?

...because we run the risk of accidents and scars....

But by now isn't it obvious that those scars and accidents are unavoidable?

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW! Doggone, doggone, u write alot and have to say alot! I never knew these things from a POV. Doggone, doggone, it's really iinteresting that a man like u can right so f..doggone, doggone, pasi..sionately.

Teen Pregnancy and Intentional Single Parents

So I went to the forums and came across this. Let me say before you read the original post and my response that the following is an opinion regarding a certain group of people. It is up to the reader to decide whether or not they are in that group.
All of my opinions are:

1.In response to the proceeding post

2.Based on my experiences in dating and friendships. 

This is not a blanket statement. This is about the choices people make. I will address the consequences and my own personal stance. So with that here we go and feel free to respond but do think and try to be articulate and informed. Emotional outburst will be deleted.
Forgive the poster for her language. But read deeper into what she is really trying to say.
Anyone under the age of 25 that brings a child into this word is either and idiot or a fuck up. Probably both. Especially if they're the ones that "don't believe" in abortion.

I've had an assload of young mothers bitching today.

So to all of you young ho's with buns in the oven here's what's in store from you.

Yes you will be broke.
Yes you will be cheated out of an education, many fun times, and great opportunities.
No your relationship will not last.
Yes you will have problems dating in the future.
If you're lucky enough to stay home with the brat, your new job will basically be being a nanny/maid only you won't get paid for it.

Sounds great, huh? You think you're different? You think you're the exception? Trust me, your not.

For fuck's sake wait until you've got your shit together before breeding!

This has been a badass PSA.

I don't think she was talking about those women who are already prepared to have children. After all, she did say - Get you shit together before.... The problem she is focusing on is girls who are not prepared; the ones who have not thought about anything beyond having a baby.
I find it disgusting that young girls want to have babies and jump out on the scene like they never had children. All I think when I encounter these women is that there is some dude out there who got away with knocking a girl up. Whether or not the man is actively involved the onus always falls on the mother.
I met a girl who was 4 months pregnant at 20. The father was 19. They weren't together. And when I asked about him, the girl always said he was somewhere playing Playstation. Then this girl, who liked me, wanted to live with me. She had no job, was pregnant with someone else's child and no plans for her life. So essentially, she wanted me to raise her (an issue whether or not she was pregnant), raise her child because she couldn't and the father was busy with Playstation and take care of a family I had no hand in creating. And all while the "responsible" party was - Playing Playstation!
That is an extreme. But it is indicative of the state of our society. Some dick wanted to sound all extra intelligent and point our social norms of the past, so let me address that. We had children as soon as we could 14/15 because we died at 30. AND 50 years or more ago, a 14 year old had more life skills than most 30 year olds today. We more recently had children a little later on 19/20 because women got married (MARRIED!) at 17 and still we died at 55. (Again, those 17 year olds were FAR more mature than today's 25 year olds.) Now we are damned near guaranteed 100 year life spans even if we smoke and drink. Today, we start our lives OUR LIVES later on 25/30. Young marriages today are virtually doomed for divorce. So what the little lady said is true. While a young girl may be able to get her shit together after having a child, she will find her self just a little behind time wise because of the bundle of joy. And it is a bundle of joy.
Make no mistake; children are a blessing from God. What these young girls don't realize is the sacrifice they have to make to take care of them. No going out (at least as often). No random assed dating. No fast track on your career. No saving up to get a house (All that goes to day care and school). None of that and so much less.
What's so wrong with getting a career, getting married and starting a family in that order? IN THAT ORDER! Please help me understand.

I'm asking because the only answer I can come up with is extreme selfishness and pleasure seeking behavior. I know how great naked-dicking feels. How could most people not want it, right now? After God blessed you to have repeated unprotected sex with someone you have no future with, why not add a baby to that mix. Babies are cute. They smell good. You can put cute little clothes on them..

I guess the real question is - What is the rush?



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Nothing. It's a rather smart move. But remember in life, one is not always yielded by their head, but their heart as well, if not more so. Now sounds like the rats homeskillet was referring to however, were not necessarily looped up in life's bliss how I may have meant it. Therefore, the "young girls want to have babies and jump out on the scene like they never had children" are disgusting and give the more thought out-planned girls/women and those who may not have thought it out but have some sense of direction and responsibility, a bad rep, damn chicken-head rats, guys included. Please keep in mind though that God has a laid out a plan for each and everyone of us even though he has graced us with free will. Children are a blessing and bad mom or not, those women, and men too, serve a purpose when a child is brought forth regardless of their circumstance. Sometimes they may be sent a child(/ren) to focus these parents or give them a reason to get off their ass and do something more than play PS whether it happens immediately, eventually, or not at all. There are so many possibilities as to why God does what He does, and all we can do is trust, not judge.
that's real shit folk! there are too many kids in fucked up situations because someone got horny and didn't want to take precautions. now u know i don't believe in abortion, but if society stops sugar coating shit and tells these kids what the real is...maybe they'd think twice. and you know doing what i do, i've seen the youngest of the young having kids (a 14 year old, what the hell!).

My Biggest Fear

I am scared to write. I have never finished any major wirting project not mandated by school or some authority figure. I used to be able to blame it on my perfectionism but I am beginning to think that’s a cop out. I’m just scared. Of what I will try to find out. What do I do when I finish? Will people read it? Will they understand? Most of all will they like it? 

You know what I’m twenty-seven. I may or may not be suffering from the quarter life crisis and I live with family and still have chores. I think I don’t care anymore. Really, I just don’t give a shit. I’ve been all over this country; experiencing different cultures and different people. You know what people are all the same. They just need people to listen and empathize with their situation. So I’ll just write what I know. I’ll write what I’ve picked up in all my travels from friends, acquaintances, colleagues, a few winos, and a bunch of bums. 

Since we started out discussing my fears, lets explore my biggest fear. My biggest fear is failure. Not just in a try and fail sense, but an ultimate failure to accomplish every goal I set for myself since I was 10. I am deathly afraid of settling. And I abhor the middle. I am all or nothing. I hate the middle class. I refuse to settle down with any woman. And most importantly, I will never be serious about any job that is not my ultimate career.

When I was 12, I read about Solomon. He was supposed to be the paradigm of wisdom. Out of the three vital qualities: knowledge, wisdom, and understanding, wisdom is the penultimate. But at 12, I realized that knowledge and understanding were first necessary in order to gain wisdom. In my conceit, I knew, I had knowledge wrapped up. So I committed myself to true understanding. I understand a great deal. I can find parallels in many, many things that people would never realize are related. At around 17 I set out to understand the most complex creatures in the universe – human beings. I do alright in that aspect. I can relate to a lot of people one would think I would never fit in with. 

I have had trouble of late though. I am stuck on one topic and I haven’t the slightest clue as to how I can make this work. Lately I have been surrounded by people who settled. Don’t get me wrong most of them have achieved middle class status. The problem is that virtually none of them have attained that status doing what they set out to do when they were younger. I have also been around people who have had no idea what they wanted to do with their life. These people I have encountered in a diverse sample. I have met people who just bounce around from job to job with no true aim except to ultimately retire and no real time frame to accomplish even that goal. At the other end of the spectrum, there are the numerous “doctor and lawyer wannabes.” I have met A Lot. These people who go to college and want to be doctors but hate blood and dissecting things. These people who want to be lawyers and can’t read. Or the ultimate directionless college student, the Business major. 

Maybe I can get a response to this question. It is my ultimate obstacle and has become my deadliest fear. I say deadly because I will be terminally depressed if I end up middle-class. I must know how people end up being middle-class from having upper-class dreams. I must know without having to experience it myself. I really want to know how a person can have a dream and just give it up. There is nothing wrong with one’s life plan taking a little longer than the average. Nothing wrong with being an adult student. Nothing wrong with taking a break and starting over late in life. But what makes people just stop pursuing their goals? Holler back people.

Me Vale Verga

Me Vale Verga I was reading the old blog about my fears. And I thought I might give an update.
I realized how valid what I wrote was. I actually don't give a shit. A year ago I thought that might have been a bad thing. Last month I actually thought that may have been a bad thing.

This past year, a lot has been going on. A LOT! It was overwhelming. I was stressing out. I started smoking cigarettes. CIGARETTES! I don't even like cigarettes but I smoke em now. I cuss a lot. And I have manners! I read Emily Post GotDammit! Hell I capped off the year by hemming up the Bar Back at work. (For the ones who don't know what hemming up is, that’s when you grab someone in a violent way and they can't get away.) I began to wild out. WILD OUT!

Well my vacation in Los Angeles did me a lot of good. Good friends, good food, good family and some great assed sex! THE SEX WAS THE BOMB! (DAMN Just thinking about that shit!) I got to take a break ... Where are my cigarettes...

Cigarettes??? I'm disappointed in you. No bueno. Okay the sex and cussing are you. But the cigs, not cute. Stop it right now

Does that mean you've given up the beedees?? Permanently?

oh, and honey pie, verga = dick, meirda = shit. just fyi.

I know you know some spanish. But I hope you know no translation is literal. The spanish version of I dont give a shit is me vale verga. Not literal

maybe it's an Atlanta thing cause 3 people corrected me yesterday.

Update #1 OK. I'm back. Damn that shit was good! And damn I hate smoking!
Anyway, I was chilling at my parents house and I was thinking about my life and everything that had been going on. One of the busboys at work taught me a phrase in spanish - Me Vale Verga. It means I don't give a shit. I began to use it quite often, just for fun. It wasn't until I was home that I realized why I liked it so much. Because its true!

Of all the things that went on in the past year, I have to say - my shit was straight. My lot had improved considerably. All the drama that went on didn't affect me negatively. Not in any way at all. Don't get me wrong. Some bad things happened. But in the end, it always worked out for the best.
I have to say it was my faith in God and all the people around who love and support me. With a hedge of protection like that, I can't be stopped. That is why I really don't give a shit.
Don't get me wrong. I care about life and love. My goals are very, very, very important to me. I am focused and you can never fuck with me getting money. It’s just that when it comes to the whirlwind of stupidity and insanity that constantly surrounds me - I just don't give a shit!
I'm watching the Chappelle show season 2 DVD and there is the puppet song on there - FUCK IT. That's my shit son! You know what I say - Fuck It!


I know some of you may be offended by all the cussing. But guess what...


Are you rolling your own cigarettes? Are you sure you're smoking tobacco? What's gotten into you? Ahh fuck it! Me Vale Verga, tambien

Marlboro Menthol Mild 72s. Yep I'm sure. Its fucked up but that’s where I am now.

Me Vale Verga !!! I heard it JJ, do ya thang. Be you and do what's best for you. Don't sweat the dumb shit cause those beads will begin to flush what you do care about and dammit, I better be on that list! And I for damn sure don't wanna be washed out. Just kidding but you feel me. That's not a question. I'm doing it again, huh? I'm talking too much, but guess what...

I feel ya folk! I say fuck it too. What happens is gonna happen...to be honest with ya, life is a series of ups and downs. NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE! Even rich folks got problems...just like po' folks. So all you can do is keep it moving and don't let the past hold you down. Learn from it and keep it moving! OH YEAH...FUCK YO COUCH NIGGA! THEY SHOULDA NEVER GAVE YALL NIGGAS MONEY!


Update #2
It's 2016 and my life is markedly better. I quit smoking cigarettes 8 years ago. I'm making a decent amount of money. More important than the amount, my trajectory is amazing! My life is truly getting better with each moment and it's because of this philosophy. I don't worry about anything that isn't a life priority. No one and nothing can distract me from my goals. I spent my whole life coming up with good ones. 

This means that if your business doesn't have to do with my family's business or mine, then I don't give a shit about it. Don't bother trying to convince me that your MLM is in any way related to my mission. It isn't. It means that I'm likely to turn down good jobs and lots of money if it's going to take me from my passion.

I made a leap of faith some years ago. It's just now paying off. The truer I remain to being myself and focusing on my goals, the better life gets. I actually reached Kramer status. I fall bass ackwards into money with less and less effort.

Stay true to what you believe in. Everything else...

"Me Vale Verga"