So I went to the forums and came across this. Let me say before you read the original post and my response that the following is an opinion regarding a certain group of people. It is up to the reader to decide whether or not they are in that group.
All of my opinions are:
1.In response to the proceeding post
2.Based on my experiences in dating and
friendships.
This is not a blanket statement. This is about the choices people make. I will address the consequences and my own personal stance. So with that here we go and feel free to respond but do think and try to be articulate and informed. Emotional outburst will be deleted.
Forgive the poster for her language. But read deeper into what she is really trying to say.
Anyone under the age of 25 that brings a child into this word is either and idiot or a fuck up. Probably both. Especially if they're the ones that "don't believe" in abortion.
I've had an assload of young mothers bitching today.
So to all of you young ho's with buns in the oven here's what's in store from you.
Yes you will be broke.
Yes you will be cheated out of an education, many fun times, and great opportunities.
No your relationship will not last.
Yes you will have problems dating in the future.
If you're lucky enough to stay home with the brat, your new job will basically be being a nanny/maid only you won't get paid for it.
Sounds great, huh? You think you're different? You think you're the exception? Trust me, your not.
For fuck's sake wait until you've got your shit together before breeding!
This has been a badass PSA.
I don't think she was talking about those women who are already prepared to have children. After all, she did say - Get you shit together before.... The problem she is focusing on is girls who are not prepared; the ones who have not thought about anything beyond having a baby.
I find it disgusting that young girls want to have babies and jump out on the scene like they never had children. All I think when I encounter these women is that there is some dude out there who got away with knocking a girl up. Whether or not the man is actively involved the onus always falls on the mother.
I met a girl who was 4 months pregnant at 20. The father was 19. They weren't together. And when I asked about him, the girl always said he was somewhere playing Playstation. Then this girl, who liked me, wanted to live with me. She had no job, was pregnant with someone else's child and no plans for her life. So essentially, she wanted me to raise her (an issue whether or not she was pregnant), raise her child because she couldn't and the father was busy with Playstation and take care of a family I had no hand in creating. And all while the "responsible" party was - Playing Playstation!
That is an extreme. But it is indicative of the state of our society. Some dick wanted to sound all extra intelligent and point our social norms of the past, so let me address that. We had children as soon as we could 14/15 because we died at 30. AND 50 years or more ago, a 14 year old had more life skills than most 30 year olds today. We more recently had children a little later on 19/20 because women got married (MARRIED!) at 17 and still we died at 55. (Again, those 17 year olds were FAR more mature than today's 25 year olds.) Now we are damned near guaranteed 100 year life spans even if we smoke and drink. Today, we start our lives OUR LIVES later on 25/30. Young marriages today are virtually doomed for divorce. So what the little lady said is true. While a young girl may be able to get her shit together after having a child, she will find her self just a little behind time wise because of the bundle of joy. And it is a bundle of joy.
Make no mistake; children are a blessing from God. What these young girls don't realize is the sacrifice they have to make to take care of them. No going out (at least as often). No random assed dating. No fast track on your career. No saving up to get a house (All that goes to day care and school). None of that and so much less.
What's so wrong with getting a career, getting married and starting a family in that order? IN THAT ORDER! Please help me understand.
I'm asking because the only answer I can come up with is extreme selfishness and pleasure seeking behavior. I know how great naked-dicking feels. How could most people not want it, right now? After God blessed you to have repeated unprotected sex with someone you have no future with, why not add a baby to that mix. Babies are cute. They smell good. You can put cute little clothes on them..
I guess the real question is - What is the rush?
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Nothing. It's a rather smart move. But remember in life, one is not always yielded by their head, but their heart as well, if not more so. Now sounds like the rats homeskillet was referring to however, were not necessarily looped up in life's bliss how I may have meant it. Therefore, the "young girls want to have babies and jump out on the scene like they never had children" are disgusting and give the more thought out-planned girls/women and those who may not have thought it out but have some sense of direction and responsibility, a bad rep, damn chicken-head rats, guys included. Please keep in mind though that God has a laid out a plan for each and everyone of us even though he has graced us with free will. Children are a blessing and bad mom or not, those women, and men too, serve a purpose when a child is brought forth regardless of their circumstance. Sometimes they may be sent a child(/ren) to focus these parents or give them a reason to get off their ass and do something more than play PS whether it happens immediately, eventually, or not at all. There are so many possibilities as to why God does what He does, and all we can do is trust, not judge.
that's real shit folk! there are too many kids in fucked up situations because someone got horny and didn't want to take precautions. now u know i don't believe in abortion, but if society stops sugar coating shit and tells these kids what the real is...maybe they'd think twice. and you know doing what i do, i've seen the youngest of the young having kids (a 14 year old, what the hell!).
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