I’m
pro-choice. I’m also pro-keep it too yourself. I’m mostly pro truth. Choose
either way you want, just be honest about why. In discussing the matter with
friends, the question of motivation always comes up in the inter-racial dating
discussion.
I went to
Facebook for answers. One interesting comment says: I really don't know how I feel? cause if my
dad didn't date my mom I wouldn't be here...my kids wouldn't be here. I guess
whats bothering me now is the last 2 relationships i have been in and I am currently
still in the last one...both men were MARRIED (but divorced when i dated them) to White
women!!! i have always felt love is love but i am finding myself irritated at
the site of Black men with White women. But i don't know why...
(I am
finding myself irritated at the [sight] of Black men with White women. But I
don’t know why…)
Neither do
I. And I think that bothers us all the most.
In this age
of uncertainties and ever increasing insecurities, we find solace in pointing
out each other’s short comings. Misery loves company. We also want someone to
blame for our struggles. Racism is dead but people are
still broke and it must be someone’s fault. Now, the former victims of racism
are getting into the blame game.
Among Black
people, it’s easier to blame White men/women for our already damaged gender
roles. Among ALL Americans, it’s always someone else who has the money. And so,
inter-racial dating becomes about money and politics as well.
Main thing I would say is unless your an
ultra rich White person or an old White republican type that thinks they're
rich being White is a wrap! Interacial dating is in all cultures!!! As we Black
"African" descendants break up these stereo types all
the women in the world are realizing that the Black Man is the shit!!!!! This
has opened up interacial dating doors for races of all kind!!! Love and
Marriage is very Hardwork!!! I applaud everyone giving an honest God-Love
relationship no matter race creed or color!!! P.S. These pink toes wit Donks is
Killin some of these sisters I ain't mad at brothas chasin them bubbles!!!!
And of
course, there are ‘The Bubbles”. The phenomena of White girls with ass is
growing and creating more than a little confusion. I’m talking about REAL
cheeks, not those Britney Spears implants. (Give it up Britney. We know.)
The bottom line is - love is love. color
shouldnt matter.
The problem
we have with inter-racial dating is that we (America) haven’t figured out what
Love is. The thought that someone else has it figured out and that it doesn’t
have anything to do with all or any of our preconceived notions is unsettling.
We feel it when look at same race couples. Everyone hates PDAs that aren’t us.
No one wants any couples in their faces with all that cute shit.
It’s just that we have no excuse
for hating on the same race couples. In our blame game society, we can find a
ton of reasons why inter-racial dating bothers us. Racism is dead (The Blog @ What I Learned…)
but we will beat that dead horse and use the glue to keep on releasing
ourselves from facing our own inadequacies.
Who we should consider are the
couples who have looked beyond stereotypes and found Love. They inspire us to
do something difficult and that’s change. And that change is made even more
difficult because it’s our perspectives we have to change. Seeing someone happy
shouldn’t bother us no matter what race the people are.
On the other side of the coin,
there are those who choose to date
outside their race to cover up for inadequacies. There are “color struck”
people in all races. And they play the blame game like everyone else. They get
tired of how someone in their family or culture treated them and turn their
backs on their race.
In Las Vegas, I found myself in the
company of quite a few White girls who had never dated White boys or even
considered it. I noticed a correlation between these girls’ dating preferences
and the absence of their fathers. Of course, having a lot of Black friends, I
have had a few who mysteriously only dated the lightest skinned Black girls and
eventually Latina and White girls. Both these White girls and my friends have
in common is a motivation to disregard mates of the same race along with a
refusal to discuss those same motivations.
We may never know the true
motivations of these individuals. Anyone who is not honest about their
motivations is not operating in Love. These people may be the minority when it
comes to inter-racial couples. Because of that, we shouldn’t consider these
people at all when it comes to dating. These people should not be dating within
or without their race.
Although these may be the minority,
these need our Love. If we are also lost and unfulfilled then we can’t help. We
should start with ourselves. But if we know Love, we know to give Love. Perhaps
we can help others to find Love. And if we know Love, we know nothing else,
especially race, matters.
On point. You did good. I agree 100% :)
ReplyDeleteTo simply answer the question, it doesn't. To explore the question in depth, it all comes down to the individual as you well noted near the mid to end of your blog. Personally, what bothers me, is the fact that people are bothered. One can say they have this reason and that reason to be against interracial dating, relationships, what have you, but the end result of such ideas is love or what could potentially exist as love. Who the blank cares what two beings are, look like, act like, if there is love, or could be love. How dare someone be against it! I get being concerned about survival of our heritages and cultures and bloodlines, but if one's heart is led in a certain direction, who are we to deny someone of that, or want to? Who are we to deny ourselves?
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