Strawberry Letter

Current mood: blessed
Category: Romance and Relationships

I was half-sleep listening to the radio yesterday morning. THIS woke me up! Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse:


Am I Doing Right By Her?

Hi Shirley, Steve, and Tommy im a 35 year old manager of a company and im having issues with my relationship. My girlfriend has been complaining about my sexual performance and earlier last year on my 35th birthday (9/22) i came home early from work to see my girlfriend having sex with another man..However, i was not suprized because around June i overherd my girlfriend and her friends joking about my sexual length, width, and performance. I had thoughts of leaving her sometimes. I only think she stays with me for my money. She has an 8 year old son whom i get along with great she often tells me im a waste of a good looking brother. Since December we both agreed i cannot satisfy her and I've been paying the man she has been cheating on me with 300 dollars a week to sleep with her and keep her satisfied. I give an extra 100 dollars if she wants him to spend the night. I'm going out of my mind right now while she is sleeping with another man. As I write this, I'm in her sons room playing video games with him while she's with this man. More than once I have found myself sleeping in his room. . . he sleeps at the foot of the bed while i sleep at the head of the bed. I often cry myself to sleep and recently she has been talking to me with attitudes and disrespecting me and telling her friends. Her friends now call me Norbit and think its funny....i hate my life. I am a 35 year old man sleeping in a small bed with an 8 year old with super hero bedsheets. Is there anyway my relationship could get any worse than this? ps. Shirley does size really matter? sincerly Am I Doing Right By Her?


What a biggity, bitch! This man can't even compare his self to Norbit. Even Norbit had a fine woman chasing him. This man has no women. I'm willing to bet he lives in Atlanta because this is the epicenter of weak, simple men in this country. He doesn't even have as much money as he thinks. If he did, his house would have another room for him to sleep in. Yet, the genius thinks he can afford $1200 to $4800 a month for his girlfriend to pay her gigolo.


He could be donating his money, if he really had it like that. Hippy chicks like philanthropists and they don't mind bad sex so much. He could be investing, stacking his so-called MONEY and REALLY getting wealthy. Then the women that are after him for his money won't give a care how bad he is in bed. Or he could just spend the money on himself. Buy hookers! Or go to the strip club. $1200 can go a long way and if you have more…


And then today!


Good Man as Long as We're Not in the Bed

Steve and Shirley, I have a bit of a dilemma I have been single for 2 years after a bitter break up with my husband of 10 yrs. who was very insecure, jealous, and emotionally abusive. I have now met a man who is secure in whom he is, has a great job, and is good with my children. As we began to spend time together I thought in the beginning that he was avoiding having sex with me because he really liked me and wanted to wait. Well as time has progressed my home was broken into and he end up moving in my home so I could feel secure. Now that I'm over the fear of being alone and ready to be intimate I find out he has a problem rising to the occasion. At first he blamed it on the medicine he was taking and keeps saying he told the doctor but still no answers to why. Not only that at night he wants to fondle me but can't please me, and when I get angry he wants to talk dirty and say just wait I'm going to take care of you. Now I am a good woman and patient but I need satisfaction and I am not receiving it. Now I am confused as to if I should end the relationship or find a maintenance man? I know this man is good to me but he cannot satisfy my sexual appetite and that's a problem I have been waiting 2 yrs to be faced with this. Help me please.. Sincerly, Been waiting to long for this



I HAD TO ADD THIS ONE!


Both these men suffer from the same affliction. They have no sense of self. Everyone has a place. Everyone has a match. These men are in situations they don't belong in. They need to find their matches. Some women out there are into the Micropenis.


The truth is the only size that matters is the size or these:

No woman wants a man with baby balls.

Men need big nuts! Men need to stand up for themselves. Stand up for who you are. Whoever you are!


Big thing, small thing, performance is affected by the partner. If you are not compatible with the person you're with, find the mate for you. The first guy may feel weak now but if he sucked it up and went out and found his true mate, he could be banging it out the box. With the right stimulus guy 2 could go from noodle boy to cucumber man.


I'm not talking about little blue pills or any thing unnatural:

I'm talking about the 90% of sex. Too many focus on the 10%

If we start back focusing on the 90 and tried reconnecting with our trues selves before we run out to share anything with the world or that one HOT girl! [She's WAY too hot for you!] , we can truly begin to enjoy what life has to offer us. These men need some time alone AND they need to learn to be OKAY with it. Then they can go out and find what excites them.


Good luck to them and to you all!


Oh shit! I forgot about celibacy! Maybe if the second guy saved it for the one he is supposed to be with he would be still going today.

Ohhh!!! All the nice ladies with so many delights for the patient man. FELLAS!!! We better get on board. Good stuff in the future



Good stuff...

I feel sorry for these men. I agree w/ all points made by you and your other readers. But it seems so apparent that these relationships lack true love. If a man loves a woman he should be able to find other ways of pleasing her. And if she loves him she will realize that he is a man, not a god, and help him to overcome. What's wrong with these people trying some different toys or techniques? Are they doing the 24-hour play that R Kelly told them about in the 90's? And there are not enough good men to go around for women to be dogging the good ones!

Love!!! True Love....



What a wonderful thing




UPDATE 2010
I might live with the second guy. His girl told me the same thing a few months ago. But she said it's because he is diabetic and he doesn't want to admit he is. SAME shit to me as above. And he keeps telling me he's pimpin and these women don't turn him on. One thing I HATE is niggahs lying on they dicks. If you're fucking, I don't care either way. If a woman doesn't turn you on, leave her. If you keep messing with her and she keeps telling EVERYONE you don't fuck her, you have a problem or two. Personal problems and with all personal problems. Keep that shit to yourself.