Optimism (Being Good)

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My brother just stopped by. Our history is short because he didn't grow up with me. But since I have been living in the same city with him, including being in his house for a few months when I first got here, it has been very interesting to say the least (and I am).

Our father called me while we were here. My brother told me to tell him hello. I did. I couldn't recall my father's response and when my brother asked me what he said after the call ended, I just said dad said hello. (That's what you say right!) It came to me after a minute that my father admonished me to not let my brother and cousin get into an argument in the house. (It happened once before.) My brother made a face at that. He actually made a face before that too when I told him dad said hello. Oh well!

But then he and my cousin went out and I thought about life for a minute. Why the face? Does it always have to be drama? It seems so at times. But anyone who's hung with me knows I really could care less about drama. I work hard, VERY HARD to remain an optimist. Its been a struggle lately but I am winning.

All this led to a story I heard when I was in the fourth grade. It goes like this-



A psychologist wanted to demonstrate the difference between optimists and pessimists. So he set up a study and invited two young boys to participate. One was thought to be a pessimist and the other an optimist. Both boys were put into rooms and left alone for thrity minutes. The pessimist was left in a room full of toys. The optimist was left in a room full of horse manure. After the thirty minutes was up the doctor checked in with the boys. The pessimist was found in the room crying. The doctor asked him why he was crying. The pessimist replied he was sad because he only had thirty minutes with the toys and they would be soon taken away from him. He admitted he had actually cried the whole time he was in the room. The optimist was found throwing the manure all over the room. The doctor found him cheering and laughing as he threw the manure in the air. The doctor asked him why he was behaving that way. He responded saying with all this manure around there had to be horses somewhere he could ride.



I remind myself of that story all the time. And ask myself which boy I am. I have only found that I was the crying boy once or twice. Most recently I was depressed and feared that I would never be able to get out of it. The reason being I thought I would be able to create a positive reality around me if I was giving off this negative energy.

You create your own reality with the energy you give off. Its also about what you believe. If you believe you have good things going on or coming in your life, then good things will happen/continue to happen for you. Its been my faith that has rescued me those few times I battled with depression. I noticed that people who are constantly sad or worried or depressed in anyway give off the energy they anticipate receiving. I had to work backwards to realize that.

In reorganizing my life, I've had to exclude some people who weren't giving off the energy I needed around me right now. But I noticed that I wasn't able to remove all of the pessimists from my life. So, I had to figure them out in hopes of helping them out or at least being able to tolerate them without affecting myself negatively. Thus, here it is for me to share with you all.

When I say be good, I never mean that in the general sense. We have to make our lives good in all ways. Ultimately, we really want to truly be good. We want everything in our world (that is the world we create for ourselves) to be good. People come and go. What we take from and give to the people who cross our paths determines the energy we will receive in the future. By being good, we only give off positive energy. Also, we only seek the same positive energy from people we encounter. And in turn everything good will happen in our lives.

That being said, Be good babies!






Thank you for this...It was a very "good read" ;)

Jason! You are such a profoundly deep thinker and writer:-) I really enjoyed this piece and feel inspired to stay positive and focus on the good around me. You are a productive, motivated optimist and I appreciate you sharing your experiences with me! Thank you...

Wow! This composition definitely has the quality of being essential!

I am a strong believer in everything happens for a reason. I have been trying to read some of your other blogs today and could only open this one. And to my surprise, this was something I needed to hear/read. I have been beaten down by negative energy in the past two weeks that had me focusing on all of the negative aspects of my life. But when I woke up today, I just wanted to be happy. And that is the route I took today, regardless of everyone else's negative energy. I may be a little more mentally exhausted from redirecting bad aura's, but it is a much better feeling to change someone else's frame of mind by doing so. We all have to stop and actually hear- not listen- to our own and each others' thoughts. I will take your thought and pass it on. Thank you