Decision 2012!!!
This is an important year on so many levels. There is a
moderately important election going on. It's the Olympics. I'm building myself
as well as my businesses. Oh and the planet is set to explode at any minute.
Thanks for THAT news Mayans! And Mexicans wonder why no one likes them.
No time for distractions.
With that in mind, I gave up drinking. Six months in, I realizing drinking may not have been my biggest distraction. For nearly as long as I’ve been drinking, maybe longer, I’ve been infatuated with women.
I am a flirt! Big flirt.
I love women. Since I started trying to hump at 3, it’s been nearly always about women. All of them. All the time!
No time for distractions.
With that in mind, I gave up drinking. Six months in, I realizing drinking may not have been my biggest distraction. For nearly as long as I’ve been drinking, maybe longer, I’ve been infatuated with women.
I am a flirt! Big flirt.
I love women. Since I started trying to hump at 3, it’s been nearly always about women. All of them. All the time!
Fast forward to today. I’m considering slowing down. I’ve
always wanted to be married and have children. As a child of divorce, though, I
MUST get it right the first and only time. So many ways to go… So many
distractions… So many options… And, still, I thought I came close to being
married. Thought! What’s a man to do? Being in my 30’s is better than I could
have ever imagined. It is a smorgasbord of beautiful women. All up to par, and
successful or knocking on the door… I’m paralyzed by the enormity of it all.
But I must decide. I am not a tyrant and I will not take advantage. I have before and I am so apologetic to those women I did not help but, instead, used. I will not do that anymore. Or, at least, I determined to be clearer about my decision. That didn’t work out so well. So now this is my announcement to the world. My decision in 2012, officially…
I am and will remain single (And enjoy EVERY moment of it) until a woman convinces me otherwise. And by otherwise I mean marriage.
One more time, for the hard at reading:
But I must decide. I am not a tyrant and I will not take advantage. I have before and I am so apologetic to those women I did not help but, instead, used. I will not do that anymore. Or, at least, I determined to be clearer about my decision. That didn’t work out so well. So now this is my announcement to the world. My decision in 2012, officially…
I am and will remain single (And enjoy EVERY moment of it) until a woman convinces me otherwise. And by otherwise I mean marriage.
One more time, for the hard at reading:
The only
exclusivity I believe in is marriage. Until my engagement, I will NOT be anyone’s
beau, boyfriend, or any other kind of trick word for exclusive dating. If a
boyfriend/exclusivity is mandatory en route to marriage for you, I’m sad to
have missed getting to know you. But not too sad!
I’m too busy enjoying my life. Single.
I’m too busy enjoying my life. Single.
Great insight by the author but my question would be how do you expect to go from single to married with crossing that relationship/exclusivity/boyfriend/beau bridge? Many women want a solid commitment from a man before they make the decision to marry that man.
ReplyDelete"relationship/exclusivity/boyfriend/beau" are all single titles. Mostly they are just titles.
DeleteI realize from my dating history that I am faithful without title. I am intimate (mentally and spiritually) automatically. I'm looking for a woman who can make a connection without the false security of a title. I know it's rare. But I only need one.
Yeah ridiculous. From nothing to marriage in one fel swoop? Youll be single forever. Have fun with that and learn to cook. No woman will convince you you are the man. Step up and take the reins.
ReplyDeleteThe way I date is not nothing. That's part of I see in other people's relationships (the ones that fail). They may even have the titles but they fail at the intimacy and communication necessary to make a relationship. I don't have that problem.
DeletePS - I cook, well!
Update - I think it's working
Deletehttp://jasonsloan.blogspot.com/2015/01/decision-2015.html
DeleteEngagement.
ReplyDeleteExclusivity is not something people have to practice. People either can or can't. You either cheat or you don't. I don't.
What people DO have to practive is being open and honest, true intimacy, putting aside their egos, being comfortable and confident on their own. I'm blessed to not only know how to cook better than most people but to know my value without having to be told/reassured.
I apologize for the late responses.
ReplyDeleteI thoroughly appreciate the feedback, anonymous posters!