What I Learned About Love

For those of you who don't know. This is what I do on Facebook. At least until I get famous doing it that is. Get ready to be indoctrinated or re-indoctrinated because I piled up quite a few blogs in the past two months. Love it or leave it alone. This is what I want to share with you all. (At least until we're in the same room[bedroom!]) The love...




"Love your neighbor just as much as you love yourself" Everyone knows that. But do they know the key?

They key is to love yourself first. It all starts with you. To change the world, to change our nation, to change our societies, to change our communities, to change our associations, to change our family, to change our careers, to change our neighborhoods; we must first change ourselves.

We tend to think that all we do is grow up and we’re done. We get jobs (Careers if we’re lucky), we get families, we become responsible, we buy grown up stuff and that’s it. But wait!

God is not finished with us yet. We can’t be finished with ourselves that easily. We cannot be finished with each other.

We each have a personal relationship with God but it does not end there. It all began with Jesus. It continues through us. God sent his love of the world through Jesus. Jesus sent his love through us. If we consider ourselves Christian we must pay it forward. The love of God is meant to be shared. Jesus is love. Love is meant to be shared.

Some of us receive or have received the love of God. We fail because we keep that love inside. Pay it forward. Quit being crabs with the blessings. God's love is never ending. Quit being so tight with the one or two blessings you've received so far. Give those away to make room for the next one's.

You know these types of messages usually lean toward money. You know how they put up the most charismatic speaker to trick into thinking it ain’t about money and then they collect a couple hundred thousand in front of your face. But I ain't talking about money. Too many people throw money at things so that they don't have to give of themselves. Let me give an example of what I'm talking about.

I was so close with my paternal Grandmother. She didn’t have much. I wasn’t spoiled by her b any means. My dad took care of her. Before she passed, she was bed ridden. She couldn't talk all the time but she would always give me a wink. I couldn't wink back. I couldn't wink at all. That is, I couldn't wink until she passed. Now her wink is mine to share with the world. So, when I give you a wink, it’s a big fuckin’ deal (to quote a special lady).

Many of us have inherited love from grandparents, family members, lovers, .... Too many of us hold on to that, mourning indefinitely. Crying is cool. (Really! I enjoy it sometimes.) But no matter how much you enjoy something, no one watches “Beaches” 24 hours a day for Seven straight years! Give it all away. Our ancestors gave us the love of God to be given out to the world. The people with the wealthiest and richest lives are the ones who give it all away.

They tried to throw us off by implying the “Most Giving Entertainer” of all time was broke. I’m going to have to teach all yall how to read Statistics. Here we all know Michael Jackson had debt totaling 500 million. But only one obscure reporting agency completed the sentence. Assets totaled over 800 million close to 900 million. And he gave and gave and gave. (And I ain’t talking about payoffs) I’m talking about true charity. Giving what you really care about. Giving what is valuable to you.

The point is we can’t let others determine God’s plan for us. We just have to pay attention and listen to God. And realize we still won’t know what to do but be good.

Whatever that means…


"...a slave does not know his master's plans..." John 15:15







Don't think this means I'm going to be all mushy to yall. It's tough love over here. Prepare for some considerate cussing outs!